Hi everyone,

Before I begin, let me say this, Please don't get angry at me because I remember thinking that people my size complaining about this were ridiculous and trying to get attention. It made me angry that they called themselves fat when I had so far to go. But after being fat for my entire life, it is so hard to see anything else.

I just wanted to ask if anyone else is in the same place I am. I. Have lost over 150 lbs. according to the doc I am beginning to be underweight but my BMI is still 19.8. I don't know what to do because it is so confusing to go from "lose weight or you'll die" to "you need to stop losing and maybe even gain a few lbs"

Please don't think I'm whining or complaining, I'm just confused. I still feel overweight and there is extra skin on my stomach, arms and legs that looks like fat. So it's hard to say " ok, that's enough, I'm happy with what I've lost" because I'm not. What do you do to change the way you see yourself when you see a fat person still and they see underweight? I had my surgery 2-6-13 and I was 287.7 then. I'm 5'9" and 134.4 now in a size 3. . I'm 37 and it has all been spent obese except about a year in my early 20's and even then I was 200 lbs.

Is there anyone else who is finished losing who is struggling too? And even if you still have weight to lose, do any support groups talk about this issue? I'm not in one. Please help if you can and please don't be angry at my post, I'm writing with sincerity.

Thank you if you read this, Kat

Edited June 12, 201412 yr by kat77

I find all kinds of support for those that regain. Yet, very little support for those of us that have become or have Anorexic tendencies. Which is what is happening to me.

Anne you are welcome to pm me. I am struggling with this as well. Some people on here have been extremely rude to me, even saying that I'm obsessed with myself and flaunting my weight loss- so I can definitely identify with the lack of support on a forum where many people are still struggling to lose weight and or keep it off.

There are also a lot of kind and supportive people on here so that's why I keep coming back.

I've noticed a lot more posts lately from people struggling with too much weight loss and I'm pretty sure it's a common problem. I think people on here are afraid to talk about it for fear of skinny shaming or lack of understanding. Many people on here still in the process just can't wrap their heads around being TOO thin.

Well they may be in for a surprise. Maintaining weight after surgery is a huge struggle for me. Pm me all you want.

I will!

@@bellabloom thanks for your reply I'm in therapy now and working on my issues still preop but I'm 2 months away from bypass

Did you do a pre-op psych eval? Is there anyway you could go and talk with the psychologist about this? There is a fairly common mental block called body dysmorphic disorder, where the person is so used to seeing their old self it really is hard for them to recognize how far they have come.