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I have a son with autism. I had my come to Jesus monument and wanted to live longer too! One year ago on May 1st I had my surgery. 135lbs (310 down to 175) no type II meds any more and other meds. Go for it it's worth the risk. You risk dying more the longer you carry the weight. Maybe you even want another child? You want a life? Then take the tools you can get and change your life. I work overnight so eating like the rest of the world is not an option all the time. Live for your self and your family. You will be happy that you did!

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There have been so many posts lately about whether to tell or not. I've said it before and I'll say it again.... When people start paying my bills they can start having a say in my life. Till then it really is none of their business. I just wanted to save myself some hassle and not deal with any negativity or stress from people I don't care about. I told my husband and daughter because they live with me and were the ones looking after me in the hospital. My son lives in Tennessee so I did not feel any reason to tell him as he wouldn't be involved in the surgery, the recovery or my daily eating plan. He will just be happy to see me thinner and healthier for mother's day. I only took 4 days off from work so there was no curiosity about where I had been or anything. I just don't feel this is something I need to share with co=workers, neighbors or church members. I have told the people I want to know so I don't have to worry about who knows what or who has told who. Its just not an issue. I'm happy with my decision and you have to make the decision that you know you will be happiest with. Just remember, once the genie is out of the bottle you can't put him back in.

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I'm having my surgery June 9. I have told a few people in my inner circle and regret it! My best friend was appalled! I'm so

Sorry I told anyone other than my husband.

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I today posted on fcebook about getting the s surgery. All comettshave been encouraging. I haved lived allmy life with stares and whispers,I do not care if people think this is the easy way. I know what I have to do for me.

I today posted on fcebook about getting the s surgery. All comettshave been encouraging. I haved lived allmy life with stares and whispers,I do not care if people think this is the easy way. I know what I have to do for me.

I today posted on fcebook about getting the s surgery. All comettshave been encouraging. I haved lived allmy life with stares and whispers,I do not care if people think this is the easy way. I know what I have to do for me.

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As u see imnew on here and thought my podt eas not posting lol

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I think it's a shame that people couldn't feel comfortable about telling others about their big decision. I think I must have been very fortunate because all of my family, friends, and coworkers have been very supportive. For those of you who find more negative people, tell them to go carry a 50lb bag of dog food around a grocery store and to keep their mouths shut.

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Thanks all again for the amazing responses!!!!

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There is nothing easy about any of this. I choose to only tell select people because I didn't want to hear that type of crap from people.

It's not EASY having surgery. It's not EASY to learn to eat healthy after not eating healthy all your life.

Tell those that you can trust and will be supportive in your journey. You are showing a lot of strength and courage to do this!!

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Hi All!!! People can be evil!!! even Love ones!!!! I have type 2 diabetes, kidney issues, liver issues, and I'm 33. I want to LIVE LONGER for my husband and child. I will do this surgery no matter what!! But why do folks feel the need to say

" Oh you taking the EASY WAY OUT" ERRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!! That strikes a nerve in the worst way!!!!

Is it really the easy way...because last I checked being overweight since I was 5 has been difficult! Having any surgery is not a walk at the park....especially recuperating... Having this disease is NOT AT ALL EASY!!!! if LOSING WEIGHT AND EATING HABITS would disappear than fine that would be easy but it's NOT!

This time around I'm hesitant to tell folks what I'm doing because of the STUPID comments......

Your thoughts please!!!

What I find is, most of these people who tell you it's just calories in and calories out, never really struggled with their weight. If they gain 5lbs., it's traumatic and that's their struggle with weight. I have a brother in law I'm not telling until the last moment, he's the most narcisistic person I know. Even if I had a body of Adonis, he would still find the need to express his own vanity. In the end, it's my health not his, if my life improves because I finally faced my weaknesses and made a tough decision, then I reap the rewards and a greater wisdom.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. LeighaTR

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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