I'll be going back to work next week, 8 weeks post-op. I've lost almost 60 lbs (25 pre op). I know my co-workers are going to be asking questions. It's none of their business. I'm not sure what to say to their inquiries. Any advice?

I dont keep it a secret. If the topic of my weight loss comes up I proudly tell them what I did and how great it is working. If they want to talk behind my back, so be it. I am the one who is getting healthy while most of them are still over weight.

My boss asked if he could tell the office...I wasn't crazy about the idea, but I let him. I just asked that any questions wait till I had the surgery and was back to work (didn't want to hear any horror stories). I came back 50 lbs lighter and compliments were given and hardly any questions. So, it worked out that everyone knew.

Every time I'm on a diet I feel like I am being watched. Somehow I think they secretly wamt me to fail. Guess what peeps, fail no more.

You got that right Susysleever!!! I agree - they just seem to think I will never make it ! Surprise We got this !!

While i'm not wanting to tell people in general (I don't like being the object of concern) I also won't outright lie about it. I've said i was having some gastric surgery to correct a longstanding problem, which iis true, but i figure eventually it'll come out. For those who work in medicine or other industry where you KNOW it'll come out - maybe preempt some of the negativity by saying that yes, you're having/have had weight loss surgery, but that you struggled long and hard with the facts and information and decision and didn't talk about it because you really didn't want to invite negative conversation about it so close to surgery. I know it'll eventually be obvious for me, and people will outright ask (one already has) so that's my approach.

Today I told the first public group of people I work with that i'll be out two weeks and who will be taking my place - nice that they all wished me well and a speedy recovery, and no one pried! Next group gets told shortly. Hope it goes the same!

Really it is no one's business. I always thought it was. My husband made me change my mind and my ways and it feels great! We told my daughter and a nurse friend. I really get tired of people going on and on about our losing weight so I darn sure don't to have my surgery announced to everyone within hearing distance. We are just a little bit private anyway.

This was such a good post. I love seeing everyone's different approach and now - even with the few I have told - they keep asking me...how much have you lost now??? I am sick to death of that too! It's hard enough to manage for me to stay off the scale and start concentrating on the BMI and my health, without having inquiring minds. I guess if I felt the people that asked, where sharing my joy, but there is an underlying feeling their not and if anything they are a little bit jealous. I even had a so called friend say - boy how easy is this for you ?? she is lucky I didn't hit her off the side of her head. Some friend. Oh well live and learn and she can eat her heart out !!

I'm from a small noisy town also . I work at a hospital and I just said I was have minor surgery . I'm not telling them. I knew they would look thru my stuff while I was out so I planted an HcG diet book for them to find . Just going to tell them I'm on that diet. My mom dad daughter and husband are the only ones that know!

I had VSG on Friday April 25th. I came home late last night (Saturday). The gas-air was my biggest challenge like a lot of the other people here. I had some trouble peeing post surgery which kept me at the hospital a bit longer than I had hoped for. The doctors said it was a result of the anesthesia. Unfortunately the inability to pee led to a temporary catheter which was a real nightmare.

The gas has subsided drastically and I feel much better now. If you can avoid burping it helps quite a bit. I am consuming Isopure zero carb which seems to agree very well with my new stomach. I lost 20 lbs prior to surgery using a variety of Protein drinks, hoping to test a number of these to see which my body would react best to.

A few questions if anyone feels interested:

1. What type, if any, food journal are you keeping? I really prefer to use my phone if possible. I found an app called Food diary which works pretty well, but is limited. I have access to quite a few fitness bands but they all seem very focused on weight management rather weight loss and meal tracking.

2. I haven't had a need for any heartburn or nausea medication yet but I worry avoidance may lead to a not so fun incident. I was prescribed an elixir for nausea and prilosec OTC for heartburn. What is working for everyone else?

3: I am about to try an Atkins shake. The were my favorite prior to surgery. They have 15 grams of protein and are much smaller than other shakes I have seen, with a wide array of nutrients. Although I haven't see anyone like our dislike these I was curious if anyone has success with the drink?

Thank you.

I had VSG on Friday April 25th. I came home late last night (Saturday). The gas-air was my biggest challenge like a lot of the other people here. I had some trouble peeing post surgery which kept me at the hospital a bit longer than I had hoped for. The doctors said it was a result of the anesthesia. Unfortunately the inability to pee led to a temporary catheter which was a real nightmare. The gas has subsided drastically and I feel much better now. If you can avoid burping it helps quite a bit. I am consuming isopure zero carb which seems to agree very well with my new stomach. I lost 20 lbs prior to surgery using a variety of protein drinks, hoping to test a number of these to see which my body would react best to. A few questions if anyone feels interested: 1. What type, if any, food journal are you keeping? I really prefer to use my phone if possible. I found an app called Food diary which works pretty well, but is limited. I have access to quite a few fitness bands but they all seem very focused on weight management rather weight loss and meal tracking. 2. I haven't had a need for any heartburn or nausea medication yet but I worry avoidance may lead to a not so fun incident. I was prescribed an elixir for nausea and prilosec OTC for heartburn. What is working for everyone else? 3: I am about to try an Atkins shake. The were my favorite prior to surgery. They have 15 grams of protein and are much smaller than other shakes I have seen, with a wide array of nutrients. Although I haven't see anyone like our dislike these I was curious if anyone has success with the drink? Thank you.

As for the phone app, you have to try My Fitness Pal, it's been a life saver.

I had VSG on Friday April 25th. I came home late last night (Saturday). The gas-air was my biggest challenge like a lot of the other people here. I had some trouble peeing post surgery which kept me at the hospital a bit longer than I had hoped for. The doctors said it was a result of the anesthesia. Unfortunately the inability to pee led to a temporary catheter which was a real nightmare.

The gas has subsided drastically and I feel much better now. If you can avoid burping it helps quite a bit. I am consuming isopure zero carb which seems to agree very well with my new stomach. I lost 20 lbs prior to surgery using a variety of Protein drinks, hoping to test a number of these to see which my body would react best to.

A few questions if anyone feels interested:

1. What type, if any, food journal are you keeping? I really prefer to use my phone if possible. I found an app called Food diary which works pretty well, but is limited. I have access to quite a few fitness bands but they all seem very focused on weight management rather weight loss and meal tracking.

2. I haven't had a need for any heartburn or nausea medication yet but I worry avoidance may lead to a not so fun incident. I was prescribed an elixir for nausea and prilosec OTC for heartburn. What is working for everyone else?

3: I am about to try an Atkins shake. The were my favorite prior to surgery. They have 15 grams of protein and are much smaller than other shakes I have seen, with a wide array of nutrients. Although I haven't see anyone like our dislike these I was curious if anyone has success with the drink?

Thank you.

Josh, you are under a topic about nosy co-workers. If you want more direct responses to your questions, you might want to repost under a topic such as "food journal", "Prilosec or not" and "What shakes do you recommend". I feel your pain with that catheter. My husband had a horrible experience with that. It was totally unnecessary. I have been told to take prescription Omeprazone (Prilosec) forever, but not my husband. We preferred Premier Protein Shakes from Sam's Club, very good! You want the best nutrients you can get following your WLS so make sure you find good Vitamins and the right foods. Best of luck! Linda

I've been telling everyone that I am having my gallbladder removed. My supervisor knows only because i trust her. And my husband know...but my kids, church fam, or immediate fam will not know. I had gotten a lot of feed back when I got the band and I'm saving myself the extra lashing from my revision by calling it a "gallbladder" removal. Its almost the same...That's my story and I'm sticking to it!! 5/22/14

I told a small group of people that I was going to a NUT 6 months prior to surgery. It's true I was. I just left out the part about the surgery. I don't want to tell them specific. The other day someone did come in to my office and was blunt. "What are you doing". She is overweight her self. When I mentioned the NUT helped a lot. Which is true. She said oh. I won't do that.

I would say that I had some medical problems that needed fixing and when that happened, weight loss is a side effect of the treatment. That's not lying and is generic enough that they have an answer and don't need to know more. I'd then ask why they needed to know and what effect would it have on the working relationship for them to know. Usually things like that get them to get the hint.

I told my boss I was getting a hernia operation which is true, just not the whole truth. I have 3 weeks off before Summer school so I will be I'll at least be able to eat soup and that will not be too odd at my work. But I will be honest if asked directly.