Anyone having trouble with friends?

[LindafromFlorida 1,542]

Damn....this isn't weight related, so I'm not sure it belongs here, but my husband and I have a "friend" we've known for about 15 years, and in the time we've known him he's basically bled us dry when possible by having us cover his meals, run him on errands, and use our car (he has no car, he doesn't feel like getting one). He has major issues with money and delinquency.

Despite my desire to be independent, he keeps coming back into our life every couple years. He'll start out nice, but move in quickly, like by suggesting we take out loans or go into business together. When I shy away from the idea he gets hostile and will call off plans to visit, saying things like, "You helped me readjust my priorities. I will NOT be extended my summer trip to see you."

Arguing with him is pointless. Worst of all, when he throws these temper tantrums, he waits a couple months and then contacts my husband, saying, "Is she still mad at me?" and acting like I'm the mean one, trying to completely ignore his own behavior and deflect it to someone else. Apologies in advance if this isn't the right thread, but how the hell do I deal with someone like this?

This guy is a LEECH. At 67, I have let go of any so called friends who try to make my life miserable. It was so unbelievably easy. I love caller ID for that reason. Not extending his summer trip to see you? That made me laugh out loud. He would not be welcome in my peaceful, loving and no drama home. If he cannot reach you by phone he will get the hint. Problem solved.