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My biggest (and only) disappointment with WLS



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My biggest frustration is not even getting TO the stall! I've been working towards this surgery now for many months, and since Group Health in Washington is so freaking cheap, they have my psych evaluation nearly four months out from when I called for it. Now today I learned that instead of looking for a June surgery (previously they said May) now after the psych eval is scored i'll have to wait another 3 months for a pre-op with the surgeon, and then another two months for the actual surgery date. It's making me NUTS. I love you all, and love the boards here, but please, please, don't anyone tell me this is a process and to be patient. I really do know that....but right now I'm just upset and frustrated. Maybe tomorrow I can embrace the #$%^&* process. sigh.

I'd be beside myself irritated!!!! What you're going through may be "a process" but it's not on the same timeline as a lot of other people!! And the fact they keep changing dates on you .... How completely obnoxious!! I mean, you'd think they'd have told you in advance that there's 3mo between psych eval and pre-op; it sounds like you've talked with them enough that they've had plenty of opportunity to explain the timelines...

Ugh !!!! I feel for you!! This sounds so much like their attempt to weed out people who can pay for it themselves or something.

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four months out from when I called for it. learned that instead of looking for a June surgery (previously they said May) now after the psych eval is scored i'll have to wait another 3 months for a pre-op with the surgeon, and then another two months for the actual surgery date.

kate

one week before my sleeve surgery "it" was cancelled! :angry:

it was rescheduled for one week later

not really a big deal - but i was so disappointed i had to wait

i can't imagine what you have been going through :(

so sorry for these stupid delays

once you finally do get WLS

"hopefully" the good will outweigh the bad when you FINALLY have your surgery

take care

good luck for your eventual date :)

kathy

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disappointment with WLS

Water rules can/are very hard for me at times - but necessary to follow

sometimes i am "disappointed" that i can't/don't drink with meals -- and then i wait 45-60 minutes before i can drink again :angry:

small price to pay for success :)

kathy

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Thank you Kathy and Elfnow - your words are so kind and encouraging, and really help. It's so disappointing, and I am really excited to do this. i'll keep focusing on the good that can come from it when it finally DOES happen. It's just hard to start working on weight loss when I'm afraid to go below what the BMI limit is, and in 7-8 months I could maybe do that. I've heard everyone say it's your starting weight that they use, but with all of these rule changes i've heard from Group health, I just don't trust the pencil pushers to keep that in place, and not change it too.

You two both make good points too - thank you. As for the reason for changes, I can understand them wanting everyone to see a 'real psychologist' and not just the social worker as they'd done before, but she's only got two appointment times each week she's allowed to give the the bariatric dept, so everyone is now waiting forever. They had hired a second surgeon, but she quit saying it was too much work - and not GH has decided not to hire another, so the doc is scheduled out that far too. I'm glad they're careful, but they're also unrealistic about the impact this has on people. Uhg.

With your encouragement and kindness though, I'll be able to hang in there.

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