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The worst time of the year!

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cherbear33    288

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I listened to your song you love and it was sweet and had a real tone in it for exactly the struggle of the journey we are taking. the ups and downs and remembering who we are inside. Thanks for the listen!

I am very glad that you listened to it & enjoyed it! I hope it helps you through your rough patch. Stay Strong & remind yourself that you are in control!!! You are an inspiration to many of us on here & you are a very strong woman with all you have overcome during your journey & you will overcome this as well all in due time!

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birdmadgirl    154

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I always get really depressed and anxious this time of year. This year has been completely unbearable. I went to my meds doctor last week and told him the struggles I have had and he said he wouldnt change my meds because they should be working and suggested light therapy. I cry everyday. Can barely get out of bed to go to work. I feel like I have nothing to look forward to. Money problems, messy house that I cant bring myself to clean, boring job that I dont like... etc.

I had my surgery in sept so along with taking away my comfort (food), winter set in and made things so much worse. I feel hopeless on a daily basis and I really need help too. I understand where you are coming from. feel free to message me to talk anytime. I could use it too.

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RJ'S/beginning    5,358

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I always get really depressed and anxious this time of year. This year has been completely unbearable. I went to my meds doctor last week and told him the struggles I have had and he said he wouldnt change my meds because they should be working and suggested light therapy. I cry everyday. Can barely get out of bed to go to work. I feel like I have nothing to look forward to. Money problems, messy house that I cant bring myself to clean, boring job that I dont like... etc.

I had my surgery in sept so along with taking away my comfort (food), winter set in and made things so much worse. I feel hopeless on a daily basis and I really need help too. I understand where you are coming from. feel free to message me to talk anytime. I could use it too.

I am so sorry about your situation. I know where you are coming from. Usually this time of year they would give me some extra meds to help me through until may. But alas I fired my shrink...

I went to my doctor and he gave me some mild sleeping pills and it has not helped the depression but at least I am sleeping at night again...

I hate this feeling. So dark and deep...We cannot let it win though...Message me anytime you need me as well.....We can kick it into its rightful place together...k

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abordenster    43

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It kinda sounds weird that your doctor didn't want to change meds. If you are crying everyday and not wanting to get out of bed then it sounds like their not working. My doc has said before that if their working he wouldn't want to change them. Maybey a second opinion would be good. Winter on the east coast sounds horrible this year. Espresso helped me some. And I take lots of Effexor and then ambien at night. Good sleep cuts down my anxiety. But I would be concerned about deep depression. Some of it is just crap we need to work out but some of it is our brain chemistry. Mine is handed down from both sides of my family. Plus my husband is bipolar with schitso effective disorder so I've been around the mental health block a lot. His psych says he does have to change meds with some people every couple of years. That a med that has worked for a long time can stop working. Anyhow I know it's hard to get to the doctor and make them make changes or try out a new doctor but suffering sucks. It's not worth it.

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    • Alisa_S

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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    • Alisa_S

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

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        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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