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So she text me today and said that I will understand how she feels when my kids are grown and treat me like an annoying neighbor..that no matter how hard she tries nothing is right..

Really?

She is looking for attention and the reaction. Don't give it to her. Just come here and vent. Ignore the text, hard as it may be.

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Ok so today I got home from 10 hours at work to a bag on my front porch.. I walk up to it squinting to make out what's in it and as I pick it up I notice it's the blanket I got her for Christmas. I'm like... Wth? Inside is everything I got her for Christmas!!!!!! Her Bracelet, blankie, pillow and cool razor..... I was shocked!!! I came inside and went straight to my room and started sobbing..... I picked myself up for a moment to text her. I say, "why did you return your Christmas gifts? What the fuck is wrong with you?!" She replies, "oh that was three days ago it was stupid of me" so I ask my husband I he noticed it and he said no and then my 11 year old an he's all, "I saw it there Monday but forgot to tell you." I don't come in the front door I always come and go through the garage cause I park in there so I never saw it!!" I told her that it's fucked up and thanks to her in sobbing! She replies, "don't cry it was meant to mean that all I want is your love not monitory things" I never replied and I won't... I'm speechless......

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Another form of manipulation. Preying on your emotions. I'd just scoot the bag out of the way. Once she stops trying to control you and calms down she's gonna want her gifts back.

Edited by superfatty

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Wow that is incredibly sad that she would stoop to that. This so reminds me of an alcoholic that never grew up and progressed and lashes out like an adolescent.

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I'm so sorry you are going through this.

You need to stay strong. DO NOT REACT TO HER. That is what she is looking for. It's going to be hard but If you want a different relationship with her, you will have to be the one to make the change. It won't be easy but it will be worth it in the end.

A good response is always, "I'm sorry you feel that way."

Keep strong and don't respond when you are upset. It feeds the beast that is her need for attention.

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Thanks everyone...

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