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Not sure because I am married but I can say my husband is a happy man!

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Not as of yet. I am not down near goal yet either. ( I have lost over 50lbs) I do not believe it is all weight related though. Attitude is a very large part of the equation. You absolutely have to put yourself out there and basically have a "devil may care" attitude. Worrying about it makes you seem desperate. Living life and enjoying what may come will make you happier, which in turn will make you more appealing. But as someone who is still on my weight loss journey I do understand that may be easier said than done. While I have lost more weight than my preschooler, I am still obese. Those who just meet me see it, they don't see how far I have come already. I have insecurities that make it hard to be as carefree as I would like. But let me tell you, I do not plan to crawl in a hole and give up. Eventually I will find the person meant for me, or die trying!!! ( at a VERY old age!)

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I don't think dating is easy at any weight, but as I have lost weight I have been more confident to get out there and try!

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I had my first date post sleeve yesterday. It was great. The boost to my self esteem was the only reason I had the courage to ask her out! I met her just before being sleeved and she has watched the process we talked some about nutrition and how I eat today but it did not make me uncomfortable. That was one of many topics discussed during the 2.5 hour lunch. It was cool I cut my steak in little bites and paced my eating to finish with her. Which left more time for me to focus on her and not the food. So it is still hard I think it always will be but for me it is much easier.

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I had my first date post sleeve yesterday. It was great. The boost to my self esteem was the only reason I had the courage to ask her out! I met her just before being sleeved and she has watched the process we talked some about nutrition and how I eat today but it did not make me uncomfortable. That was one of many topics discussed during the 2.5 hour lunch. It was cool I cut my steak in little bites and paced my eating to finish with her. Which left more time for me to focus on her and not the food. So it is still hard I think it always will be but for me it is much easier.

You sound like a sweet guy. I'm glad you are feeling more confident!

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Hunter I'm happy for you and hoping everything goes well. confidence is everything & I don't really have much of it

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I don't think dating life is easy for any single person that is actually looking for a relationship. I'm married but remember being divorced (previous marriage) with a baby and just going with the flow. It's hard because so many want an "instant" relationship without the dating! I get onto my daughter for that even now. Add in the texting and face timing you can get bored with each other before you ever really date! My advice: date old school. Make someone "try" to impress you and expect your door to be opened for you. Go out of the house on dates! Don't just "hang out" at first. Keep a distance between you so that when you hold hands, kiss or hug it's exciting. Real men want to be the man in the relationship and take care of their woman and I see absolutely nothing wrong with that. Good luck finding your soulmate. So glad I found mine. Ps yes I'm a mom! :)

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    • Doughgurl

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      1. Selina333

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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. LeighaTR

        I hope your surgery on Wednesday goes well. You will be able to do all sorts of new things as you find your new normal after surgery. I don't know this from experience yet, but I am seeing a lot of positive things from people who have had it done. Best of luck!

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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