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I've been in the December Surgery thread of the Pre-Surgery Forum. But I wanted to know from the men here if any of you, who've had the surgery, have had buyer's remorse. My surgeon's dietitian told me everyone has it, but they mostly get over it by the time they're eating soft foods. The idea of doing this to my internal organs FREAKS ME OUT!

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I'm 3 weeks out and haven't had it yet. HATED the post-op liquids stage (wanted to chew on my own fingers, lol) but knew it was necessary to let everything heal :-)

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Thanks UKsleever! I'm also hoping to hear from the guys who've had it. BTW I have kids in London. Are you near there?

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I'm not a guy, but I had it bad for a couple weeks. I cried daily and thought to myself why in the world did I do this to myself. All I want is a slice of pizza!

Now 17 months later it was the best decision I ever made.

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Thanks music 1618! That's what the NUT said. Here's hoping any regrets don't last long! ;-)

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I had it in the first stage too, but it quickly went away when i was able to eat something with substance...

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Thanks UKsleever! I'm also hoping to hear from the guys who've had it. BTW I have kids in London. Are you near there?

I used to live close to London but moved to Scotland a few years ago. Do your kids like London?

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I had it in the first few weeks but in my case, it really wasn't related to food so much as just the "foreverness" of the whole thing. "I actually had an elective surgery that literally changed the physiology of my body! OMG!"

It's actually kind of funny now but it wasn't at the time. Now it's "why did I wait so long??" I would do it again in a heartbeat! I'm living the life that not that long ago I did not believe would ever be possible. Just doesn't get any better than that!!

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'Foreverness' is definitely the word I'm trying to accept, along with the drastic and damaging surgery on my innards! I hope to be able to look at it as one of the best things I've done, in hindsight.

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I'm with you on the forever thing. I'm four days out and still trying to get my mind right. The pain of the surgery surprised me. I've had back surgery, but this was in a totally different league. I remember them saying in class that there would be a slight discomfort. SLIGHT? Today is better than yesterday, so I know this too shall pass. I keep staring at the 1 oz cups wondering if I can squeeze 5 oz of Water into it. :)

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Thanks justn! That's more like what I expect will happen with me. Though I hope it'll be better, like everyone else!

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Thanks justn! That's more like what I'm afraid will happen with me. Though I hope it'll be better, like everyone else!

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I'm with you on the forever thing. I'm four days out and still trying to get my mind right. The pain of the surgery surprised me. I've had back surgery' date=' but this was in a totally different league. I remember them saying in class that there would be a slight discomfort. SLIGHT? Today is better than yesterday, so I know this too shall pass. I keep staring at the 1 oz cups wondering if I can squeeze 5 oz of Water into it. :)[/quote']

A co-worker who's about three years out from his RNY said the worst pain was from right after surgery to a few days later from trying to get the co2 gas out of his torso, that they used to inflate the area they did the surgery. He said his best advice was to get up and walk immediately and as often as possible to help the co2 dissipate.

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      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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