So in my latest visit to my NUT last week, she made this comment that I LOOK like someone who has lost weight too fast, that I'm sort of gaunt looking. WHAT THE CRAP?! Then she said "well, maybe it's just because I haven't seen you this skinny before".

So of course now I'm staring at myself constantly, thinking that I look like a skeleton in the face who's skin is literally sliding off of it. Yeah, disgusting I know.

I'm completely paranoid! I don't want to look like a 90 year old deathly ill woman! Part of me is like "give me some fat back!" I'm using every firming/toning lotion, cream I can find. Has anybody else felt they look like this or had someone tell them this? I thought I looked pretty darn good! My face does look a little hollow to me, but I've been staring at my fat face for 10 years now, so the difference is a little spooky.

That's horrible! I'm sorry!

I have the same concerns. So I don't have any advice just commiserating.

NUT last week, she made this comment that I LOOK like someone who has lost weight too fast

now I'm staring at myself constantly, thinking that I look like a skeleton in the face who's skin is literally sliding off of it.

kchristian

when a "normal" person says something like the above comment, she/he is maybe/probably not thinking before they speak

still no excuse - ignorance is bliss??? i don't think so

but............

for a professional to say something like "gaunt looking"???

wow, that hurt

dumb/cruel thing to say - even though i'm sure she didn't mean to be insensitive - but she is/was

your profile

Height 5 feet, 7 inches

Starting Weight 280 lbs

Current Weight 197 lbs

Surgery Date May, 14 2013

Goal Weight 150 lbs

Weight Lost 83 lbs

being a "shrimp" at 5'3 i've always envied (msp?) lovely tall girls like you

there is a thread on the board concerning taller people - their weight et al (sorry don't know how to find it )

people give their weights, size et al

i'm sure you don't look gaunt/hollow

"maybe" recheck your goal weight with others

all peoples body build, medium et al is different

but.............i'm sure you are looking absolutely maaaaaaaaaaaaarevelous

don't start staring at yourself, 2nd guessing yourself

paranoia is no fun - i keep worrying about that

83 lbs down is wonderful!!!!\

keep up the good work

kathy

congrats

Edited October 31, 201312 yr by proudgrammy

I always get " you look pale " Yes maybe I am in your opinion but I am becoming a thin and healthy pale so eat my dust!!!!!!!!!

Those comments just add to our own misconceptions about how we see ourselves.....

I would rather look pale then fat!!!!!

WTH???????????????????

I'm sorry your NUT isn't as supportive as one SHOULD BE!!!!! For someone in her position to make a comment like that strikes me as unprofessional.

I saw mine the other day and I saw a wedding picture on her desk. When I looked at her picture---I thought to myself: "I'd bet that she's never been fat a day in her life."

Unless you've been judged by complete strangers as lazy and undisciplined, I don't think you can TRULY comprehend what people in our position go through on a DAILY basis. I can't stand negative comments to someone who has endured what you have.

Know that in the eyes of God--we are ALL BEAUTIFUL

Maybe she meant it as a compliment? ????????? If not, I hope she get's Beotched slapped by Karma.

Just forget stupid comments. Just try.

Thanks everybody. It just planted this little seed in my brain and of course I'm the type of person who is going to Water that seed by dwelling on it.

And hey - she might think I look "gaunt" because let's see - I'm exhausted 24/7 (blood work next week for 6 mo follow up). I can sleep 9 hours without waking up and be pooped the next day. I take all my Vitamins, get all my water + some, and get all my Protein, so I don't know what the heck is going on with me.

I have a 2 year old (enough said), plus 2 teenage step daughters (18 & 17), one of whom is pregnant and the other likes to get caught smoking pot. Soooo.....yeah....

Also - my collar bone is starting to show a lot. I thought that was a GOOD THING! HI COLLARBONE! OH HOW I'VE MISSED YOU - FEEL FREE TO POKE OUT AS MUCH AS YOU WANT! (shoulder blades, ribs, pelvis - you are welcome to join the party any time)

Edited October 31, 201312 yr by kchristian

Thanks everybody. It just planted this little seed in my brain and of course I'm the type of person who is going to Water that seed by dwelling on it.

And hey - she might think I look "gaunt" because let's see - I'm exhausted 24/7 (blood work next week for 6 mo follow up). I can sleep 9 hours without waking up and be pooped the next day. I take all my Vitamins, get all my water + some, and get all my Protein, so I don't know what the heck is going on with me.

I have a 2 year old (enough said), plus 2 teenage step daughters (18 & 17), one of whom is pregnant and the other likes to get caught smoking pot. Soooo.....yeah....

Also - my collar bone is starting to show a lot. I thought that was a GOOD THING! HI COLLARBONE! OH HOW I'VE MISSED YOU - FEEL FREE TO POKE OUT AS MUCH AS YOU WANT! (shoulder blades, ribs, pelvis - you are welcome to join the party any time)

Stress anyone!!!!!!!!!! Come on give yourself a break and do not give this dame any power over you by giving her a second thought..You got this kid!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"Your doin it Peter, your flyin"

gaunt is good, that's what I want my face to look like, it looks athletic and healthy. sounds like jealousy to me.

Edited November 1, 201312 yr by Chase30