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Shannalee    65

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It seems that over the last few weeks my motivation to do anything has disappeared. I haven't worked out in 3 weeks, my eating is bad, & I just don't want to do anything. I found out recently that I might have to have an ovary removed & a possible hysterectomy. I am only 35 & have never had children. I think this has effected me more than I think. Plays with the head really. Trying to get back into my routine but I think until I get answers in a few days it's just not gonna happen. I just feel so alone in this. It has taken a toll on my work products, my school assignments, & even my friendships. I feel like I just need to get my ass out of my head but I really don't want to. Ok enough of the putty party......I just needed to vent a little.

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It seems that over the last few weeks my motivation to do anything has disappeared. I haven't worked out in 3 weeks' date=' my eating is bad, & I just don't want to do anything. I found out recently that I might have to have an ovary removed & a possible hysterectomy. I am only 35 & have never had children. I think this has effected me more than I think. Plays with the head really. Trying to get back into my routine but I think until I get answers in a few days it's just not gonna happen. I just feel so alone in this. It has taken a toll on my work products, my school assignments, & even my friendships. I feel like I just need to get my ass out of my head but I really don't want to. Ok enough of the putty party......I just needed to vent a little.[/quote']

its ok just depressed a lil itsgot to.get better

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TurnThePage    220

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Talk to your doctor about your depression. Some meds for a few months, perhaps some therapy, would probably be a great help to get you through this difficult time.

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Shannalee    65

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Talk to your doctor about your depression. Some meds for a few months' date=' perhaps some therapy, would probably be a great help to get you through this difficult time.[/quote']

I have been seeing a therapist & hope to talk with her my next visit. This has popped it's ugly head after our last session. I will talk with my doc about that. I have always been against it but ever since the surgery it seems my chemicals are a little off. I even get more paranoid during my cycle each month. Thanks for listening. I just think it hasn't been this bad in a while & I can take care of it myself.....which apparently I need a little help :-)

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kiwiladydee    402

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We all can completely understand getting off track - but you have to jump back on. The possibility of not having children is very stressing! Remember they are other way surrogates, adoption, etc.. The future is so big, we never know what's going to happen 5 or 10 years down the road. No matter what, you being healthy is going to help the situation and stress is only going to make it worse. Remember life is a snails pace race ---

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I have been seeing a therapist & hope to talk with her my next visit. This has popped it's ugly head after our last session. I will talk with my doc about that. I have always been against it but ever since the surgery it seems my chemicals are a little off. I even get more paranoid during my cycle each month. Thanks for listening. I just think it hasn't been this bad in a while & I can take care of it myself.....which apparently I need a little help :-) Sent from my iPhone using RNYTalk

I JUST started having to take Zoloft for anxiety. Against everything I've ever believed about taking meds for my emotions (my whole background is in psych, so I see what these drugs can do to people over time). It got to the point where I was having panic attacks over the traffic in pittsburgh (which IS really awful, so I am justified! Haha)... But ever since I started taking a 1/2 tab of the lowest dose, I have totally found myself again. I feel "normal" again... Not tense and anxious all the time. So nice. My doctor said that gastric bypass can really throw hormones off, especially in women, and he sees this happen a lot. He counseled me for over an hour (I only had a 20 min appt). Lol he made me realize that I'm NOT crazy and it IS ok to accept help once and a while... Even in the form of meds.

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TurnThePage    220

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A friend of mine once said that she would gladly risk living a few years less in exchange for the good quality of life that she found by taking an anti-depressant med.

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Shannalee    65

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Thank you :-) I have made an apt with my doc with a note from my therapist for an antidepressant. It doesn't hurt to ask for a little help. Heck I ask for help when I decided to get the surgery.

Again thank you :-D

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Obeasta    92

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Thanks for inspiring me to get help as well! I need it. Having appt with mydoc next week and ask about meds.

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mitzie46    116

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It seems that over the last few weeks my motivation to do anything has disappeared. I haven't worked out in 3 weeks' date=' my eating is bad, & I just don't want to do anything. I found out recently that I might have to have an ovary removed & a possible hysterectomy. I am only 35 & have never had children. I think this has effected me more than I think. Plays with the head really. Trying to get back into my routine but I think until I get answers in a few days it's just not gonna happen. I just feel so alone in this. It has taken a toll on my work products, my school assignments, & even my friendships. I feel like I just need to get my ass out of my head but I really don't want to. Ok enough of the putty party......I just needed to vent a little.[/quote']

So sorry you are having a difficult time. I had a hysterectomy at 40 . I don't have any children and had just started dating my husband.. I understand what you are going through. Feel free to message me if you want to talk. Take care

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Shannalee    65

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So sorry you are having a difficult time. I had a hysterectomy at 40 . I don't have any children and had just started dating my husband.. I understand what you are going through. Feel free to message me if you want to talk. Take care

Thank you mitzie46 I might take you up on that offer. Have my first, I assume of many, appointments to figure out what is wrong with my down there. I just hope to have a resolution before my next cycle because I don't want to be in that much pain ever again.

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kiwiladydee    402

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I do not have children either and not sure if I want any. I suffered so long with painful periods and irregular cycles I'm not sure what I want anymore.

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Shannalee    65

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So I saw a specialist & did not like her one bit. So I decided to seek a second opinion. Is this over reaction on my part? People told me no because when your gut tells you this is not right you do something about it. So my next apt is next Friday. It is still a little discouraging but we will see. Have a doc apt this morning to discuss antidepressants. I am proud of myself for even seeking this help :-)

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So I saw a specialist & did not like her one bit. So I decided to seek a second opinion. Is this over reaction on my part? People told me no because when your gut tells you this is not right you do something about it. So my next apt is next Friday. It is still a little discouraging but we will see. Have a doc apt this morning to discuss antidepressants. I am proud of myself for even seeking this help :-) Sent from my iPhone using RNYTalk

I don't think it's an overreaction at all! Trust your gut. Good job taking care of yourself!

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