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So my husband is not on board with me revising to rny. I am frustrated and sad! He is willing to listen to me "plead my case" and willing to check out the support group with me to ask questions. I am self pay, but it is not so much about the money.....more about the fact that he thinks I should/can do it myself. I am sure he thinks that, since I gained back the 60 pounds I lost with the band, ( i did have two babies in the interim) I will not be successful in the long term with bypass. Does anyone have any info recommendations on what I can say to get him on board with this???

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So my husband is not on board with me revising to rny. I am frustrated and sad! He is willing to listen to me "plead my case" and willing to check out the support group with me to ask questions. I am self pay' date=' but it is not so much about the money.....more about the fact that he thinks I should/can do it myself. I am sure he thinks that, since I gained back the 60 pounds I lost with the band, ( i did have two babies in the interim) I will not be successful in the long term with bypass. Does anyone have any info recommendations on what I can say to get him on board with this???[/quote']

My husband was the same way initially. I just had my revision surgery on June 12th. I brought him to a preop appointment with me and hearing the doctor say they re finding out the failure rate on the band is much higher than initially thought helped. I had both surgeries at mayo Clinic and to have my doctor tell him he isnt even doing bands anymore (hasnt in 2 years) spoke volumes. When he would say to me "what if this doesnt work" or anything along those lines I would say, "what if it does"? I never give up and he knows that I will continue to try until Ive felt like I have succeeded. I eat really clean and follow a strict diet already it is y crappy metabolism and other issues that caused the weight regain. Time will tell if this "works" or not ut again I never give up and will give it my all. I count each pound as a success. Good luck with your decision!

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I hope he changes his mind once he gets more education. You need the support! Best Wishes!! :)

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My husband is the same way too. However, I'll continue to let him know that I'm the one who is living with diabetes and pain. The band never relieved my co morbidness, but did leave me with port pain along with them. I haven't given up yet but I need to really do this very soon. I must face the fact that diabetes waits for no one

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So my husband is not on board with me revising to rny. I am frustrated and sad! He is willing to listen to me "plead my case" and willing to check out the support group with me to ask questions. I am self pay, but it is not so much about the money.....more about the fact that he thinks I should/can do it myself. I am sure he thinks that, since I gained back the 60 pounds I lost with the band, ( i did have two babies in the interim) I will not be successful in the long term with bypass. Does anyone have any info recommendations on what I can say to get him on board with this???

What complications are you having now and have you seen your wls surgeon yet? I just had my band to rny this month.

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