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Hello Everyone! Im 2 weeks away from surgery. My boyfriend has not been supportive of me since day 1. He told me that the surgery is bullshit and to just do it on my own. It's easy for him to say that, he is tall, skinny, and fit. He says I'll die if I have the surgery. Even told me today that if I have the surgery he was breaking up with me. Ugh!!!!! He has my mind all messed up and has me second guessing my surgery. :-(

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WELL I SAY DO WHATS BEST FOR YOU NOT HIM I HAD THAT PROBLEM IM KNOW SINGLE AND HAPPY BECAUSE IF HE LOVE YOU HE WILL SUPPORT YOU WELL I WANT TO ENJOY MY NEW BODY ALONE LOL J/K I HAVENT HAD MY SURGERY YET BUT I DNT NEED NEG VIBES RIGHT KNOW HOPE IT GOES WELL FOR YOU

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Try if he will go to take him to dr with you or to a support group if your dr has one he just doesn't understand or wants something to happen to you if he's not willing and your set on doing it if he leaves well maybe it wasn't meant to be you don't need any NEGITIVE distractions or stress in your life so it will be his loss if he decides to leave

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Do it for you and only you I had the same problem but I had my surgery 6 days ago and let me tell you it was sure peacefull in the hospital myself nobody there to stress me out

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My husband did the same thing but when he realized I was doing it no matter what he said he kinda jumped on board. Took me to hospital and just acted more serious than brushing me and the topic off. This was over many months that he said the same exact thing " you don't need this you can do this on your own" or "you'll never be able to stick to it" " your skin is going to hang" some of my motivation is to prove him wrong. I'll be 4 weeks out on 25th and I'm down 27 lbs not so bad. He said the the other day "your looking good Deb " please don't let him change your mind! It's your life not his he doesn't have to love in your shoes everyday. He's being selfish for what ever reason . It's not so bad over here on this side come on well make room for you on the losers bench! Put you first! Good luck to you !

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I went through the same thing with my ex. He never went to a single doctors appointment with me, never asked me about them, and was so against the surgery. I almost cancelled it. But, we broke up 10 days before my surgery and now I couldn't be more happier. If he cannot support you and be that for you every step of the way, then there are other fish in the sea. You're moving on to bigger and better things for yourself. Good luck.

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Im in tears now. im so stressed. I get so much support here and zero at home. I think maybe my problem is that im not used to putting myself first. I've always put everyone above myself. Im not sure why my boyfriend is against me having this surgery. we have a 12 month old baby together. I don't know what to do.

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aww dnt cry this should be happy time for you not a sad one

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Say you don't have it because of him. Will you be happy and healthy? If your answer is no the rethink the relationship. You should be happy with YOUR decision and your health. He's probably insecure, but don't let him change your mind, heart, and break your spirit.

He will still be apart of your life because of your daughter, but if he leaves its HIS fault.

He will get to see drop and will see how healthy and happy you are.

Sending you lots of positive vibes.

Choose happy and healthy!

Surgery date 7/25/12

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Thank you ladies! You all have no idea how much all your support is helping me through this tough stressful time for me. Ever since I got my surgery date, it's been nothing but stress over here. I just want to be healthy,happy,and thin

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When I first started my journey I was with this my ex. I spent a weekend at my parents, thats when they told me my insurance covered the surgery. I was so excited and couldn't wait to tell him. When I did he was furious that I would even suggest "the easy way out" and we faught all night i wouldnt conceed to his opinion. Over the next two months I had doctors appointments and tests and all thats jazz. Every day he would complain about the money and time I was wasting. And I would brush him off. Eventually it wore on us and we fought more and more and eventually we split.

Try to make him understand that it is your health and it is up to him if he wants to stick around and help you with your health.

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Thanks for the advice sparklette! When is your surgery date?

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Boyfriends and daddy's come and go YOU need to take care of yourself BECAUSE this is not diffently the easy way out its lots of work after surgery and for a long time you have to be so careful what's good one day might not be the next day or week EVERYDAY is new and different You need to think what's best for you and your baby and do it may be hard but that's what MOTHERS do once in a while you have to put yourself first

I have a question for you what is your weight and how long have you been overweight

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Thanks for the advice sparklette! When is your surgery date?

Thursday.

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Wow surgery is right around the corner for you! Are u nervous at all? Did you have a pre OP diet? If you don't mind me asking how much weight do you need to lose?

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