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Just like I said before u can say I love u but at this moment I can't cope with this. Not everyone has that leave it to beaver family. I for one do not. My family hurt me worse than any stranger from the street. Do I love them yes but do I want to constantly be put down cry and get so physically upset I vomit hell no. So I surrounded myself with the ppl who truly were there for me and five years later they are still there my family ha is not. Misery loves company and you've been miserable long enough! And enough is enough take control of ur weight, ur life and ur happiness. Im sorry but unless you have family members like this u really don't understand the toll it can take. Not everybody has a great support system when it comes to this and I for one can say I didn't and I've lived this constant chaos and I'm sorry to be blunt but its bullshit needs to be stopped. Sometimes it takes a big wake up call to prove ur point. Leave on terms of I love you but I can't handle the stress...end of converstaion and walk off.

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I have found that my sisters arent nearly as supportive of me lately as I am with them. I have always dropped my life, and helped them through whatever they needed; divorce, having kids, babysitting so they can go out, etc. Now when I am off work with severe back issues and the upcoming surgery, no one calls or stops by. I thought I could count on them more and it makes me sad and depressed . But I would never cut them from my life. This phase will pass and we are family and that's what's important to me!

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I have found that my sisters arent nearly as supportive of me lately as I am with them. I have always dropped my life' date=' and helped them through whatever they needed; divorce, having kids, babysitting so they can go out, etc. Now when I am off work with severe back issues and the upcoming surgery, no one calls or stops by. I thought I could count on them more and it makes me sad and depressed . But I would never cut them from my life. This phase will pass and we are family and that's what's important to me![/quote']

None of my family help me period. My boyfriends family does. Its really sad.

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The issues go way beyond my weight loss. I live over 150 miles away from them. I seem to be the call to person when someone wants something. When I'm visiting, they don't even give me the time of day besides making rude comments to me or when she wants something. My sister has gotten into this mindset that everyone owes her something or that everything needs to be about her. It's all childish behavior. If and when she decides to grow up and realize I don't care who was talking crap about who or what my parents do or any of that, I may decide to let her back into my life. Right now, I took a step to better my life with this surgery and we all know how hard this is without all the negativity and drama. For once I am focusing on myself, my needs, and my health.

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None of my family help me period. My boyfriends family does. Its really sad.

It's sad that my husbands family is very very supportive of me and our (my husband and myself) decision to live a healthier lifestyle and they are all very much over weight. They've even started cooking more at home then going out.

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That's ur support sissy. U stay there. That's how my boyfriends family is. I stay strong u got support and it will het closer and bond tighter.

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