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I decided to keep it to myself what type of surgery I am having. The women at my work are very nosey and mean especially my supervisor. She is a very jealous women. So I decided I would just take two weeks off for my vacation and have surgery. But with all these appointment my supervisor found out I am having surgery but it is killers her to know what type .. And this afternoon I was handed fmla papers I have to fill out. I told her I didnt plan to take fmla but they said I have to. So my question is does the doctor put exactly what the surgery is or can her just put a general explaination.

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I just filled out my short term medical and fmla stuff and u can send it directly to the company that handles it and so can ur dr. Nobody has to know what ur doing. That's how mine works. The hr ladies knows because she was helping me fill out paper work but other than that, nobody has to know. It's ur private issue.

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FMLA can be a double edge sword in my experience. It protects your job and when you take off due to illness it allows you to do so no questions asked. Keep in mind there is a possibility that you have some issues post op.

the other edge is that they do put what is going on with you and I have found that it can cause issues. I have rhuematoid arthitis and have had to go on FMLA a few times. Each time I have in some ways regretted it. It is true it goes to your HR person, but usually they let the supervisor know what is going on. I have had issues with gossip and resentment for having to take off. At this point I will not file FMLA unless I absolutely have to.

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I didn't realize this qualified for FMLA. How do you go about handling that?

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I didn't realize this qualified for FMLA. How do you go about handling that?

If you are going to be out for any length of time use to medical issues it will qualify for FMLA. You need to get the forms from your hr person and have your doc fill them out.

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I dont have short term disability. Everything goes directly to hr. I work for such a small company.

If you truly think you will have issues with this boss. Please think about it and then rethink about it. Speak with your doctor and family members. Read up on it.

If you have questions please don't hesitate to send me a message.

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I have no choice they are making me file for fmla. So its either get the papers filled out or dont have surgery... Okay I am im tears again!! I am getting so frustrated.

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Breath... Is ok. Go to hr and talk to them. Don't let this get in the way. Go straight to hr. You can trek your boss your protected by hippa and you have the right not to tell then what your going for. If you continue to have issues tell hr, is a big liability issue, your health is protected, its the law. Message me if you need support.

,#hugs

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Thank you so much for the support. I think I will go to bed and get a good nights sleep. Then will go talk to hr in the morning.

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Anytime. Just remember you have rights and no one can take that away from you

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I don't believe they can force you to file FMLA if you are using vacation time.

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It is a HIPPA violation for HR to tell your supervisor what kind of surgery you are having. HR will tell her you are on medical leave and when you plan to return to work. That is it

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Your stories are making me thankful for where I work. I requested the FMLA packet from the person who handles it in our office and the email that I got from her was that she was having the same surgery with the same surgeon I am using 2 weeks before I am. They are very understanding. Several of my co-workers have WLS and there have been no issues with time off.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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