tell me some of the reasons why everybody wants to keep the surgery private?

To me it makes me very excited and I just want everybody to know and just to rub it in there face lol

Fred Montana JR

Well, in my case I am still struggling with the thought that I 'failed' and that's why I needed the surgery. I know that is not really true but it is something I am working on.

Also, some people are just rude and I don't want to deal with it. My close friends, hubby and mom know. None of the rest of the family. They can't keep quite and it's no body else's business.

However, I give you credit if you want to shout it from the roof tops!!

I told a lot of ppl but sometimes I do tend to stay quiet. I'm getting really thin & I'm getting the maybe she is dying look so I'm not saying nothing else.

I'm not keeping it secret. Not exactly shouting it out to the world, but I have no problem telling anyone. It's not something I'm ashamed of, and I've found that a lot of people are interested and start asking questions about it.

I think it is a individual thing. Some people feel great telling everyone and others want to keep it to them selves. I personally, only told a few close friends, my sister and a couple people at work. I think it is totally up to YOU and who YOU want to know.

Thank YOU

Fred Montana JR

A good number of people have had it where I work (same hospital where I had surgery) and there have been varying results. I've told some but the grapevine is very active there so I don't really expect privacy. There's a reason soap operas are based in hospitals! Anyway those that have had WLS are continually scrutinized by others especially when in the cafeteria making food choices. People love to watch a train wreck & don't notice the folks who do well. I plan to be in the latter group.

I personally have only told a few people, and wanted to keep it quiet. One of the reasons I decided this was because when I first was going to look into surgery and looked to my friends for support, I had only gotten negative comments in return. I didn't want to deal with those comments when I was going through an already tough decision.

I have heard everything from "you're not big enough" to "you're gonna die on the table" to " you will lose all your friends because people that are fat that are now skinny change their personality and think they are too good for their friends".

However, I have lost a few pants sizes and people notice this..and still talk. But I am more confident in myself and I am trying hard to just ignore the people that say negative things.

I kept it a secret from most people. I finally told my mom once I was pretty close to approval, I told my brother, my best friends, and some family members that in close with. I never and still haven't told anyone at work, some friends, extended family, or people I meet now.

I feel like I kept it a secrete because I to got a lot of negative feedback. Mostly from my mom. It was enough to make me consider who I tell.

Another reason: I personally just felt that it's. One of their buisness! Lol. I mean I'm had this surgery as a tool to help. It's still totally up to me to stick to it and make good choices. Otherwise the weight won't come off and will come

Back on! So I just tell people I exercise and I eat completly differently. Which are both true statements!

Oh and I have gotten messages from people on Facebook who see me out at the bar or dance club I go to every weekend and are so sweet and say I inspire them! Those people are usually overweight so I usually tell them if they ask!

I have told close friends and family. I just didn't want to tell everyone until I was sure it was actually going to happen! Lol. I have told a few more now and I did get the "your gonna die" thing from a co worker. I just laughed and said I'm sure I'm not gonna die.