RNY on Monday, 12/10, Scared!

[MyTimeToLose 41]

New to this forum. After a long process I was approved for surgery and now it is coming fast, less than 3 days away. I am so scared, more scared than I thought I would be. Afraid to die and if I am making the right decision.I went through this process over 2 years ago and changed my mind before scheduling surgery and then regreted it after doing yet another fad diet that failed again.I was doing really good, looking forward to the surgery, but now worried since it is so close. I have 3 young boys who need me, but need me healthy too so that is why I am doing this. I started at 292 and I am now 272, I am 5'11" tall, in my early 30's. Anyone else extremely scared prior to surgery? Any advice? I will continue to read this forum all weekend, so happy I found it

[music1618 879]

I was not worried about the surgery, but my husband was deathly afraid of it. In fact the day of my surgery he threw up several times due to the fear. Just keep in mind your goal. I will be honest with you the first few months are hard months, but they pass and are a distant memory now. Stay strong and find a picture of your heaviest weight and keep it near you. When it is a hard day pull that out!!! We are here if you need anything

[lovealways 287]

My surgery won't be until next month, and throughout the whole process, I promised myself I wouldn't allow myself to get scared the closer it got! Lol of course that didn't work. Now that it's getting closer, I find myself second guessing my decision. I worry about not waking up from the surgerg and I worry I'm making too extreme a decision. I also worry I'll have complications and worry I'll fail and gain the weight back. Many, many thoughts. These thoughts are fleeting...they never get in the way...they are more like passing thoughts. I keep my eye on the prize and try to think positive. I've seen at the weight I am now how my health and life have been negatively affected (I'm 5'4 and 269) and I'm just not going to live like this anymore. I'm too young to be stuck at home ashamed of myself and my body. Second guessing ourselves is normal...it means we're human! This is such a HUGE life transition and we are about to embark on a lifelong journey. Just know how bad you want this and it helps to keep negative thoughts at bay

[jodimc 117]

My surgery is Wednesday and yeah, I'm terrified. But I won't allow myself to think about the bad things that could happen because I'm NOT backing out so what is going to happen is going to happen. I have faith in my surgeon and more importantly in my God. So I'm just moving forward each day and keeping a Xanax in my pocket just in case! Lol!

Good luck to you. You're going to be fine!

[tlbr8408 20]

My surgery is tomorrow as well... When I get scared I just remember how common this procedure is and that allllll the pre op tests,however annoying, were all done to make sure you're a perfect candidate for this procedure! You will do great and I can't wait to hear about your progress good luck to you!!

[txsmile100 14]

Hey there! My surgery is tomorrow as well. I think it's normal to be scared. I am as well. But I am more scared of what will happen if I DON'T have the surgery! I don't have any advice for you but wanted to let you know that you are not alone!! What time is your surgery tomorrow?

[worm2872 635]

You both will be fine! It's a rough road but manageable. Good luck!!