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I also only told a few people but my husband us telling everyone about it. I guess he was the one who needed to be convinced. I was upset with him telling others but I'm over it.

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It's amazing to me when I get the "Oh but you can do it without surgery" statement especially from people who know I've been in more and more pain for a few years. I always respond with "So you're saying you would rather see me try to lose the weight and fail over and over again than to choose a safe and proven method hmm!" Always no response. :P

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Ok I am so tired of telling people about the surgery and having them respond with " why - you don't need that" or "isn't that drastic ?" Or my new fav " I am going to change your mind"

I've responded with all the fact' date=' that I am eligible blah blah blah and they keep proceeding with comments.

Luckily I have good support but its getting to he point where I don't even want to talk about it. I guess I need to stop telling people that I am doing it. :([/quote']

Exactly why I don't want people knowing my business. This is my decision and hearing anyone try to tell me different could be detrimental to me. I don't need doubters in my life before a surgery like this. Even when you know it's exactly what you want and need people can set in ideas you never want to hear.

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If you think this is bad' date=' weight til you lose weight! I am now at the "OMG, how much have you lost?" stage and when I tell them the number and how I did it, the number of people who go all goggle eyed and do the "you can't have lost all that/ you couldn't possibly have needed to lose all that/ where did you hide it/ eek surgery!!!" So not telling them now gives you breathing space but the opinionated will catch up with you in the end. By then you will be so healthy and fabulous, you won't care :-))))

For now, just smile and say thanks for their input - then ignore every last one of them ;-) This is your life and your business - and you know what's best for you...[/quote']

Totally agree with you. I would rather have the backlash on the back end instead of when I'm trying to overcome the obesity beast.

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I said.... and I quote.... "Thank you Everyone for your prayers and thoughts yesterday. I had surgery yesterday, it was something I had only shared with a select few, more because of the nature of the process. I started the process in January and had my surgery yesterday. I had the vertical sleeve gastrectomy. It is a bariatric surgery that is intended for weight loss. I am usually quite open with what is going on in my life but because of the sensitivity of this type of surgery I chose to keep it quiet until post op. So first thing: I started this process in January. It took me 6 months and 27 days to get my surgery. I had to go through extensive medical and mental testing including blood work, sleep studies, EKG, and much much more. It is a surgery I have debated for years. As much as I did this for me, I did this for Caleb and as a future nurse, my future patients. Why this surgery? I had gone in wanting the gastric bypass (the most common weight loss surgery) my surgeon recommended the sleeve. The brief story of a Vertical sleeve gastrectomy is... They remove 75-85% of my stomach completely. It has left me with a banana shaped stomach that will allow me to consume from a few ounces to start to 1/2C later on down the road. Some may feel this is the easy way out, but the surgery is easily manipulated. I have to choose everyday to wake up and follow the rules (no drinking and eating together, Protein first, veggies second and avoid slider foods which are foods that easily make it through the sleeve such as ice cream, chips and Cookies etc...) the average weight loss is 60-75% of your excess weight. An example is someone who is 100# overweight would expect to loose 60-75#. It is not uncommon to see 100% of excess weight, the sleeve essentially does the job for the first 6 months worth of loss.... I will have to remain proactive for the remainder. I made a FB page so I can keep my FB page focused on me and not annoy people daily about this. https://www.facebook.com/SleevingIt I would love for you to go like the page, but more importantly, thank you for being a part of a special event in my life."

I was totally high on narcotics at the time ha ha. I think I did pretty good though reading it now lol.

I LOVE it. =)

I have told my immediate family members and a few inlaws and some friends... I think your fb post was great! I'm going to tweak a few sentences in there and probably post something similar. I think it's better then pretending I did it by regular diet and exercise and have to lie everytime people ask how I lost the weight. Plus, by posting it on Facebook it gives people time to process my decision so by the time they see me in person they won't be as shocked and it'll save me from telling them the whole 9 =)

I love what you wrote!

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I learned real quick to just keep it to myself and not tell anyone that doesnt' absolutely have to know. I was originally surprised by that response also. It's shocking to them' date=' bc they havent been thinking about it for years like we have.[/quote']

I'm feeling so blessed! My family thinks I'm absolutely flicking crazy to consider WLS, much less going to Mexico to have it done. Then I tell 3 of the young geeks I work with (I'm 57, old enough to be their mother) and they were so cool! They're behind me all the way. And my PCP? I read something on here where someone talked to their PCP and wanted to discuss having the sleeve done In Mexico, and the doctor told her, basically, if you go to Mexico to have the surgery, I won't accept you back as a patient!!! My PCP? Practically did a dance around the room. He wants to see all my research and he and I will sit down with what I research, and the information packages that I get from different drs and we will make the decision together, with my husband there. PCP has had quite a few patients have WLS so he's committed to my after care and is so happy that I finally made the decision to 'save myself'. What a blessing he is in my life. So is my loving husband.

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