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So I can't believe I posted something about periods this morning when my mums doing pretty badly.

I am 5 weeks post op today and doing absolutely fine, low energy, struggle to drink enough, not enough Protein all the usual but fine.

My mum is 2 weeks post op today, I feel guilty as hell because we both wanted it but I went ahead with it first as she was a little unsure.

Once she saw that I was fine she decided to go ahead, I did tell her that mum you're seeing just the benefits and you're not hearing me whine and complain.

Mums been feeling terrible she was doing okay for the first 10 days or so but since Wednesday she said it feels like something is stuck and she's been woken up in the middle of the night to be sick, feeling feverish, abdominal area and back hurting.

We've just been to see our doc and he didn't give a clear answer however he was panicking and booked her for a CT scan and he made her get bloods made her jump the wait and has fast tracked her results and wants them ASAP.

I'm scared, feel guilty, tired, stressed and possibly maybe wanna cry!

She did have an ultrasound this afternoon that came back ok.

I just don't know what to think.....

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It's good that you contacted the physician immediately and she is getting the tests and care that she needs. Please don't feel guilty about your progress. Things happen and it could have easily been reversed with being the one with problems.

Hang in there...wishing her a speedy recovery.

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I think it was good that you staggered your surgeries. If something had gone wrong for both of you post-op, you'd both be unable to be there for the other. At least this way, you can be there for her.

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You can't feel guilty. You couldn't have known that your mom might have faced some complications. You got her to her doc right away and she is getting the care she needs. While it is great that you are there for your mom, you need to make sure you are taking care of you too. You won't be any good to her if you end up sick too.

Best of luck to both of you!

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I just said a prayer for your mom. As they've said, u did good getting her help now, nd u need to help urself in case she needs u ltr. Don't feel guilty bc ur mom wudn want u too nd she'd feel bad knowing that u do. Just hang n there nd again, many prayers ur way:) Dee Dee

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So I can't believe I posted something about periods this morning when my mums doing pretty badly.

I am 5 weeks post op today and doing absolutely fine' date=' low energy, struggle to drink enough, not enough Protein all the usual but fine.

My mum is 2 weeks post op today, I feel guilty as hell because we both wanted it but I went ahead with it first as she was a little unsure.

Once she saw that I was fine she decided to go ahead, I did tell her that mum you're seeing just the benefits and you're not hearing me whine and complain.

Mums been feeling terrible she was doing okay for the first 10 days or so but since Wednesday she said it feels like something is stuck and she's been woken up in the middle of the night to be sick, feeling feverish, abdominal area and back hurting.

We've just been to see our doc and he didn't give a clear answer however he was panicking and booked her for a CT scan and he made her get bloods made her jump the wait and has fast tracked her results and wants them ASAP.

I'm scared, feel guilty, tired, stressed and possibly maybe wanna cry!

She did have an ultrasound this afternoon that came back ok.

I just don't know what to think.....[/quote']

I am praying for your mom!!!

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You did the right thing by getting her to the doctor asap. You being their with her I'm sure is exactly what she needs right now. Just remember to take care of yourself also. Prayers for you and your mom.

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Thank you so much, all of you thank you.

I'm trying to just keep calm and not worry unless the phone rings!

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I'm praying for your mom. Keep us posted!

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Keep us posted! I hope everything is ok!

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Just thought I'd keep you all posted. My mum has a blood clot and has been readmitted into hospital. A clot between her stomach and kidney, waiting to speak to the doc shortly so I understand this more! Anyone know anything about it?

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(((Saira & Mum)))

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