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nursepez    152

nursepez
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After reading pages and pages on a previous topic about "regretting this whole thing," the OP repeated over and over about doing this for her health....not looks.

Am I the only person who did this to look good? Yes, the health benefits are WONDERFUL...no arguments there. But I went into this because I wanted to look better..which in turn makes me feel better...physically and mentally.. Maybe it's my age...60...but the closer I get to the end of my life...the more I wanted to end things looking the best I can. My biggest fear is that people would file by my casket saying..."she never did lose that weight.". Lol!

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Ahealthyme2013    39

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I think people do it for different reasons. I want to have surgery because I feel awful, have back pains, high blood pressure & cholesterol. Looking good is a bonus! I don't think it's wrong to want to look and feel good.

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No game    14,437

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I know a certain Texan here that started a thread months ago asking who did this for vanity sake?

So you are not alone I know that.

I think all of us want to "look good" whatever that means to the individual, don't you think?

That being said, I did this for health so I can be healthy, live life and get off of medications.

But that doesn't mean I don't want to look my best too.

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Nicolanz    1,484

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I did it for all of the above!!

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Kalimomof3    613

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I did it for all of the above!!

Me too!

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GoldyGirl    186

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Thanks for Keeping it Real, Yes I want to LOOK HOT! :P

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nursepez    152

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Thanks for Keeping it Real, Yes I want to LOOK HOT! :P

You got that right...at any age!

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nursepez    152

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Besides...would we really devote so much forum space to talk about plastics and being a size 6 if we didn't care about looks.

For the record...I do care about my health...more so now at age 60. But damn, I want to look good, too!

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Rox    200

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There's nothing wrong with wanting to be hot - even in your 50's and 60's - I know that when I was younger, I thought, who cares what i'll look like at 50, i'll be close to death. Now that I know that life doesn't end at 50, I want to take control of my body and do everything possible to keep it healthy and fit. My husband has been taking me to task for years over my health. Now I want to outlive him.

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DeezJeanz    1,065

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As my name implies...I want to wear jeans again, ive nit worn them in over 13 yrs, I'm tired of elastics, I want to wear single digits and I don't want to go on bp meds nd cholesterol meds that my doc says I need. I want the whole entire package!! I already love myself, just not what ive done to myself and now I'm going to try and do something good for myself, so that I can SEE THE GOOD on the outside as well:). Gl to us all, whatever the reason;). Dee Dee

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Molly3    495

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After reading pages and pages on a previous topic about "regretting this whole thing," the OP repeated over and over about doing this for her health....not looks.

Am I the only person who did this to look good? Yes, the health benefits are WONDERFUL...no arguments there. But I went into this because I wanted to look better..which in turn makes me feel better...physically and mentally.. Maybe it's my age...60...but the closer I get to the end of my life...the more I wanted to end things looking the best I can. My biggest fear is that people would file by my casket saying..."she never did lose that weight.". Lol!

You're 60?!? YOU LOOK AMAZING!

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LovetoDeath    93

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You could have fooled me that you were 60!!!!

I did it for 60% look and 40% health. I don't have any health problems now but I am terrified to get them. I know I will always have some body issues but I have never in my adult life been skinny. So it is a dream of mine.

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TES    858

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Besides...would we really devote so much forum space to talk about plastics and being a size 6 if we didn't care about looks.

For the record...I do care about my health...more so now at age 60. But damn, I want to look good, too!

You do look great! I did a double-take at your pic when you said you were 60.

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SerendipityHappens    1,594

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I did the surgery for health.... I'm going getting a full body lift and perky new boobies for looks.

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magpie30    187

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I did my sleeve more as a preventative thing. I had pre diabetes, my bp was borderline, my family has a history of heart problems, high cholesterol etc. I am only 30 and i didn't want these things to become full blown issues. Besides that i couldn't play with my son or do the things i wanted to with him because of the weight. But i think that looking good always plays a part in the decision whether it's a major factor or just an added bonus. How we look often dictates how we feel, and the better we look the better we feel about ourselves. As others have said, there is nothing wrong with wanting to look good, especially when we feel like we haven't for a long long time.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
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