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Ashlee K

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Ashlee K    46

Ashlee K
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Well I'm suppose to be feeling amazing right now the surgeon approved me and does not foresee any issues with the insurance but I feel broken right now and you guys are pretty much the only ones that might relate to how I'm feeling. First of all the boyfriend is totally against me doing this purely because of his own insecurities. Afraid I'm ganna thin up and leave him. We got into a big fight over it last night (same day I got my approval) than today is day one of all liquid and it's mentally killing me. I'm hungry I'm emotional I want chocolate than in top of it all I'm at work and people here are really getting under my skin. So all I really want to do is cry. I want to be happy and excited but I can't Sorry for being a Debbie downer

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HatheryOnHerWay    603

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My hubby wasn't on-board at first either. He came around once he realized I wasn't going to take "no" for an answer. Stay strong and keep your head up---you're doing what's best for you, and that's what matters.

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My husband wasn't on board either. But he does know my struggles with my weight . He also knew I wasn't very healthy, and at the end of the day he wants me to be around.

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ElaineB    207

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Ashlee, it seems like your feelings are normal. You're taking control of your life and making huge changes and sacrifices. You are giving up an emotional crutch and are suffering through a liquid diet. Then, instead of getting the support you need right now, you are having to deal with your boyfriends issues. I say, take a deep breath and focus in on what you are doing and why. Ask for support from others. If you cant get it from those around you, you do have us. And maybe pamper yourself a little. You can't go out to eat, but you could get a pedicure. In a year this will be a memory and you will be looking hot. If your boyfriends not nice, you may have to trade him in:). For a pool boy named Felipe;)

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Harlemzheiress    22

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My boyfriend is totally against me having this surgery as well. He claims its because of the small percentage of death but I think it's because he's insecure. Little does he know I love him so much I will never leave his side big or thin.

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Harlemzheiress    22

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Do what is best for you !

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Ashlee K    46

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Thank u for that I needed it typing with tears in my eyes things can only get better

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ElaineB    207

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Change is always painful. But that is what we all have to do to claim our best life. You deserve this.

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    • Alisa_S

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. LeighaTR

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        I hope your surgery on Wednesday goes well. You will be able to do all sorts of new things as you find your new normal after surgery. I don't know this from experience yet, but I am seeing a lot of positive things from people who have had it done. Best of luck!

    • Alisa_S

      Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

    • CaseyP1011

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      Officially here for a long time, not just a good time💪
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