I'm feeling pressure to be down more, every time someone ask how much are you down now? And when I only say a lb or two less they give me this look..... Or better yet act like the weight I lost was easy.. I've been a disappointment to myself and my family, been the bud of jokes my entire life and not one person from my family has said anything nice, or way to go, or your looking good. I did this for me but sometimes you need your mom to say hey I'm proud of you no matter your age .... Ok I'm done feeling sorry for myself

Brandy that baby in your picture is so dang cute!

I'm not a psychologist but I do know one thing, you have to stop looking for acceptance in other ppl and find it in yourself and that is where you find a peace of mind that makes it less of a big deal what other ppl think of you.

<3 if it means anything, I am proud of you!

I know exactly what you mean though! I had to realize that its just not in some people to acknowledge the good in peoples lives. Thats their choice! Unfortunately, its a sad one!

I love to congratulate people. Whether its weight loss , a pay raise, a new hair style, an unexpected addition to the family......share joy!

Brandy that baby in your picture is so dang cute!

I'm not a psychologist but I do know one thing' date=' you have to stop looking for acceptance in other ppl and find it in yourself and that is where you find a peace of mind that makes it less of a big deal what other ppl think of you.[/quote']

Thank you, I made pretty babies lol

<3 if it means anything' date=' I am proud of you!

I know exactly what you mean though! I had to realize that its just not in some people to acknowledge the good in peoples lives. Thats their choice! Unfortunately, its a sad one!

I love to congratulate people. Whether its weight loss , a pay raise, a new hair style, an unexpected addition to the family......share joy![/quote']

Thank you

Brandy, I totally agree with you about people asking how much have you lost? I always feel like they expect the number to be bigger. Im sorry your family is not giving what you need in the way of support. Take care you and your baby are beautiful.

Sometimes people who are jealous or wish they were losing weight tend to say something semi-spiteful because they are not losing and so the fact that you losing, no matter how fast or slow, is still losing. Smile when you tell them how much you have lost and be proud of your success. If you are anything like me before surgery there was no weight loss or if there was there was a weight gain that went along with it.

If people question me too much I think I will say I don't weigh myself but my clothes are getting looser.

Well I don't know you from a hole in the ground, but I'm proud of you! Some people are just turkeys! Just say "I'm still losing, thanks for asking."

I am proud of you! Its nice and motivating to have positive feedback bc mental feedback just doesnt cut it sometimes.

brandy, I agree with neon's reply. If someone asks, just tell them you are only weighing in monthly, but your clothes are falling off

BTW, I'm proud of you too!!!

Oh I know this look so well!!

Honestly I followed the advice of someone here. I never answer the question by saying I only weigh in once a month.

If it is people I really don't care for I look at them, smile sweetly and say I have lost about as much as you have gained

Yes I am a mean girl!

When someone I don't care to speak with about the subject asks "How much have you lost", I say "Not enough." That usually gives them the hint I"m not getting into specifics with them.

When someone I don't care to speak with about the subject asks "How much have you lost", I say "Not enough." That usually gives them the hint I"m not getting into specifics with them.

Genius, Hathery!!! Love it!

Genius, Hathery!!! Love it!

And I love your profile photo! Foxy!

While reading this, it occurred to me that people would think it extremely rude and inappropriate to jog up alongside a marathon runner during the race with comments like these:

"Hey, how far have you run so far? Really? Wow, you still have a long way to go, huh? I woulda thought you'd have run a lot further by now. My mom drives 26 miles to work every day and it only takes her half an hour, I wonder why you're not making as much progress as my mom. Are you sure you made the right choice to run this race? Maybe you should try driving instead; I hear running can be dangerous, I know of people who got really badly hurt when running..."

It sounds crazy, but people think nothing of making similar comments to someone who's trying to lose weight, especially when they find out we're choosing WLS to get the job done. We're in a marathon, too, and it's not helpful to criticize or be negative.

Miss Manners once said that a good response to nosey folks is "Why do you ask?" but I really like Hathery's option!