I'm feeling pressure to be down more, every time someone ask how much are you down now? And when I only say a lb or two less they give me this look..... Or better yet act like the weight I lost was easy.. I've been a disappointment to myself and my family, been the bud of jokes my entire life and not one person from my family has said anything nice, or way to go, or your looking good. I did this for me but sometimes you need your mom to say hey I'm proud of you no matter your age .... Ok I'm done feeling sorry for myself

Brandy, consider the source here. Are these unconditionally loving, affirming, caring, unselfish people?? Oh, there not? Well then, why the *heck* would you give these people the power to define you?? If you were going to pick a human being to define your worth and value -- how about picking someone like Mother Theresa? For me, I don't let *any* human being define me -- only Jesus -- and He is crazy about me!!

God is proud of you Brandy!

warmly,

WeeWers

Thank you all for your input

While reading this' date=' it occurred to me that people would think it extremely rude and inappropriate to jog up alongside a marathon runner during the race with comments like these:

"Hey, how far have you run so far? Really? Wow, you still have a long way to go, huh? I woulda thought you'd have run a lot further by now. My mom drives 26 miles to work every day and it only takes her half an hour, I wonder why you're not making as much progress as my mom. Are you sure you made the right choice to run this race? Maybe you should try driving instead; I hear running can be dangerous, I know of people who got really badly hurt when running..."

It sounds crazy, but people think nothing of making similar comments to someone who's trying to lose weight, especially when they find out we're choosing WLS to get the job done. We're in a marathon, too, and it's not helpful to criticize or be negative.

Miss Manners once said that a good response to nosey folks is "Why do you ask?" but I really like Hathery's option![/quote']

OMG I HAD TO REPOST THIS!!!! EXACTLY!!!!!!!

ROTF LOLOLOL HOW TRUUUUUE!!!

Brandy, My father inlaw use to pick on me to the point I didn't even want to eat or do holidays with them. Then when I told my inlaws my choice for weight loss surgery all i heard was that's just a waste of money it's not gonna work you just need to push your self away from the table. It got to the point I didn't want to go over there at all. A week before the surgery he even asked my husband why he wanted to waste money like that on a surgery that isn't going to work. I am 9 days post op and I have not seen them since 2 weeks before my surgery. I am down 26 pounds I didn't let him and his crude rude comments get the best of me. Hold your head up and anytime you are feeling down come to the forum we are here for one another