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Have a friend who had the sleeve 2 weeks after me. He went to a different doctor and has a different plan. He is doing horrible...drinking...eating McDonalds, etc. he also stopped going for his checkups then he sees me - down 120 pounds in 7 months and keeps telling me I am losing to quickly...not eating enough...not healthy, etc. really getting annoying and I want to tell him off but he's my customer and I can't. Lol!! Some people think this is an instant cure and it's far from that. It's hard work.

I would simply explain that you are following what your doctor wants you to do, and both your doctor and yourself are satisfied with the results. If he can't be happy for you then I would not even discuss it with him at all, customer or not. :)

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I followed what my surgeon said to a certain degree. The fact remains, the sleeve is a lifestyle change. I adapted it to fit my needs, and I am seeing results to this day. I think to each their own. Obviously I don't advocate eating a burger 2 weeks out and then freaking out about the ability to do so. But certain touchy things, like alcohol, are something that you will have to make your own call on. I think of them as post op guidelines, not rules. Plus, being 100% strict will only hit you that much harder when you slip once vs allowing smaller portions of things. I've had different types of foods than what I am suppose to, though I am almost 6 months out. But, how would I know what I can tolerate and what I cannot without trying them? I think the basics, Protein first, Water, exercise, track, Vitamins are a must. after that, its your call.

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I agree with this thread a billion times over. It gets under my skin!! Research is imperative for such a life changing surgery! And the risks! People started solids too early...yeesh...some of us did everything by the book and still had leaks! I fear the sleeve is becoming more of a cosmetic procedure in our society.

I agree some got mad at me for saying this exact thing .. I said some ppl got the sleeve to be healthy so there taking all steps to do so then u have those who are wanting to be skinny but still doing everything that's unhealthy to each it's on but they got mad at the truth

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Have a friend who had the sleeve 2 weeks after me. He went to a different doctor and has a different plan. He is doing horrible...drinking...eating McDonalds' date=' etc. he also stopped going for his checkups then he sees me - down 120 pounds in 7 months and keeps telling me I am losing to quickly...not eating enough...not healthy, etc. really getting annoying and I want to tell him off but he's my customer and I can't. Lol!! Some people think this is an instant cure and it's far from that. It's hard work.[/quote']

Congrats on the 120 pound lost amazing your doing great

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I followed what my surgeon said to a certain degree. The fact remains' date=' the sleeve is a lifestyle change. I adapted it to fit my needs, and I am seeing results to this day. I think to each their own. Obviously I don't advocate eating a burger 2 weeks out and then freaking out about the ability to do so. But certain touchy things, like alcohol, are something that you will have to make your own call on. I think of them as post op guidelines, not rules. Plus, being 100% strict will only hit you that much harder when you slip once vs allowing smaller portions of things. I've had different types of foods than what I am suppose to, though I am almost 6 months out. But, how would I know what I can tolerate and what I cannot without trying them? I think the basics, Protein first, Water, exercise, track, Vitamins are a must. after that, its your call.[/quote']

Well said .. This is me all the way I agree

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I inquired about this same thing it was said that this question was like a lean person asking why we can't just stop eating. It's not even in the same ballpark. It's nice to know I'm not alone in the dugout.

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Refuse to realize the importance of following their surgeon's orders? If my doctor tells me to stand on my head and consume only Pork rinds for a month' date=' I'm going to do it. If he tells me to drink only purple and pink sparkly liquids for a month, I'm going to do it.

Doctors don't just make this crap up to be sadists, they do it for a reason. Yes, we know our bodies better, but they know the health of our new pouches better.

Can they be wrong? Sure! Can they be overly cautious? Without a doubt! Can leaks happen anyways? Unfortunately. That said, I am going to follow the instructions given and not come here seeking permission to do differently. I am certainly not going to get pissy when people tell me to follow doctor's orders. What's the point?

Phew. I feel so much better.[/quote']

This is why so many people fail at the lifestyle change- because they think that the weight will just fall off- its a lifetime commitment- not a fad diet. People are treating it as such and are instantly set up for failure. That's why there are to a of people now SO unsatisfied with the sleeve!

I listened and researched my sleeve surgery and every aspect of it- and was successful in changing my habits- And my lifestyle.

Same with my plastics I had one year from my sleeve- my surgeon was and is amazing ( Dr Hugo Neibles ) Niebles .... But if I didn't so everything he told me to do- I would be a messy failure! I take things seriously.

It was a serious issue to me- not just a passing thing.

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And if you can't follow instructions a week out' date=' how the HE double hockey sticks are you going to follow them for a lifetime?[/quote']

Or even manage to follow the two week PRE op diet!

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Totally agree, OP! Thanks for saying what many of us feel. It's just not worth the risk.

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