Told the rest of my family - I am in shock!

[pantala 125]

Ok, when I scheduled my surgery I didn't even notice on the calendar that it was Easter weekend. No biggie, we are not a religious family. I also wanted to keep it as quiet as possible as I really didn't want to put up with the negativity I was sure would come my way so only my husband and sister have known.

But now that I am four days away and leaving town on Tuesday, I figure I would just suck it up and let everyone know why I wouldn't be around for Easter dinner. I am quite grouchy from the pre-op diet and not ready to have long drawn-out discussions about this.

So, it turns out that my mom and middle son are actually very cool with this!!!! You know what they said? They trust my judgement!! Whoa, NOT what I expected!

My daughter, who I sort of thought would understand is quite certain I will die. That's what she said: "So basically, you're saying you might die." NO, that is not what I said but it's what she heard so whatever. My oldest son used to live near the border in TX and is just not comfortable about me going into Mexico but otherwise is ok with the surgery. My daughter-in-law is miffed I will miss Easter dinner.

I know they will gossip about this on Easter but at least my mom and one son will buffer the remarks. Not that I will lose sleep over it. And I feel better about being open at least with my family.

Still feel no need to share with co-workers.......

[elliscoastie 9]

proud of you for sharing with your family. I didn't mention anything until I got a surgery date...I told my two sisters and my oldest daughter. I'm telling others that I'm getting my hiatal hernia repaired...which I am but not telling them about the sleeve. No need for everyone to know, only the closest of family. My mom passed away two years ago and would have supported my 100%...My dad is still around but clueless so I haven't shared with him.

Having the support from those that matter the most will carry with you. Wishing you the best.

Lisa

[newat52 1,612]

Glad you are doing it your way! Nice to have support even if it's not from everyone. They will come around when they see how healthy you are about to become!

Best wishes and safe travels!

[crickee 85]

Good luck and congratulations to a new you! I didn't tell my co-workers until after I had lost about 30 lbs, but I work in a school and there is always a celebration of some sort!

[cindysc 108]

I went to my moms this weekend and was gonna tell her but I just couldn't. I may get up the nerve before I leave. I hate for her to worry but then she may be hurt that I didn't tell her. I mentioned surgery and going to MX once before. She was fine with the surgery just not going to MX. So I just stopped talking about it and have kept it to myself. But I was gonna tell her yesterday and couldn't. I just don't want anyone putting doubts in my head.

[anniemay 150]

I finally told my parents and much to my surprise they were both 100% on board. Now I'm not going to MX but I still thought at least my dad would give me slack. Instead they said they are proud of me for taking control. ????

[hurley911 59]

Way to go! I told my prunes and they are both supportive worries about going to MX as expected but know how I research into things! Now my mom is just nervous as if I was going into any surgery! She will be taking care of my 2 1/2 month old so she will be too busy to worry! Lol

[hurley911 59]

*supportive but worried

[sharonintx 1,275]

My husband and kids knew where I was going and a handful of friends. Husband supportive, kids were not as pleased but had the good sense not to say much about it. I told my mom and brother I was getting a lap band and let them assume I meant close to home. I told them both the horrible truth about where I went and that I had the sleeve when I returned from Mexico. I explained that I didn't want them to worry unnecessarily about me going to MX. They were not that happy but have been supportive since then.

[pantala 125]

If it hadn't been for going on Easter weekend I probably could have gotten away with not telling. Waiting until nearly the last minute means they all have less time to fret and I have a limited time to hear about it.