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I have surgery on Monday. I want this so bad. But I'm so nerveous that I am afraid I will talk myself out of it.

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This is perfectly normal. Every possible thought ran through my head. If you don't do anything else you owe it to yourself to become healthier and this is one step on your journey. I'm only just about weeks post and this is the best

decision I could have made. I deserved to be happy and healthier. You deserve to be happy and healthy.

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I have surgery on Monday. I want this so bad. But I'm so nerveous that I am afraid I will talk myself out of it.

I am having surgery monday as well and I keep envisioning myself getting checked in the hospital and then all of a sudden begin screaming and running from the hospital...ugh I am so nervous:/

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Take a moment and a few deep breathes, count to 10 and with each number you count say one reason why you want this after you get to 10 visualize the happiest moment in your life then you should know if you really want to have the surgery only you can make this decision. Many blessing with whatever you decide is best for you.

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Take a moment and a few deep breathes' date=' count to 10 and with each number you count say one reason why you want this after you get to 10 visualize the happiest moment in your life then you should know if you really want to have the surgery only you can make this decision. Many blessing with whatever you decide is best for you.[/quote']

Thank u...i appreciate this....it puts things into better perspective:)

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Thanks everyone. It good to know others feels this way. And to know I have people who understand!!!

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Sitting here at lunch having to squeeze in my booth. With my gut over lapping on table. And it reminds of the way I don't want to be anymore.

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Mine is a week from Monday and I am starting to get that pit in my stomach. I cry easily and am so broke right now it all overwhelms me I cry at the drop of the hat....even when I am not thinking about it it is still effecting me! I am looking forward to summer .....this will all be behind me!

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The surgery itself is nerve racking but also the changes that go along with it. Your battle against weight will soon be over. You life is about to change. Even though it's a positive change, it's still scary. Imagine yourself healthy, not being held back by your weight, the confidence you will have, the liberation!

Now imagine yourself backing out. Still fighting this weight battle, being depressed, held back.

You got this! The beginning is the hardest part and in a few months you will feel amazing! Good luck and keep us posted.

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I'm 2weeks out and it's normal to be scared and the truth is when you first days after the surgery it's not gone feel worth it ..it's tough but if you have your mind set on the goal you be fine I cried twice after the surgery once in the hospital and once four days out haven't cried since head hunger is a b!... But I decided that my family should hide eating from me I neede to deal with it .. I'm down 26 pounds I feel good about it

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I was scared too. Walking into the hospital the day of my surgery I nearly turned around and left. I just kept telling myself "I'm scared to do this BUT I'm scared NOT to do this, I need this"

Everything turned out great and I am off to a fairly good start.

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