Hi all. I'm new here to the forum. I'm just graduated the Tufts "Can Change" program and am finally finding out my surgery date on the 7th. I'm so excited! I was wondering how many of you kept your surgery a secret? So far I've told my family, my very best friend and my boyfriend. I was just wondering how others handled their situation.

Thanks in advance!

I am aiming for a March date...so far my hubby knows. I don't know if my insurance will approve it so I don't want to get anyone upset until I know for sure. Then I will tell my mom and sisters and bff.

it does seem to be.

My husband said' date=' "Why can't you just exercise?"

I couldn't even get into all the reasons why exercise isn't possible for me, between swollen, Fluid filled feet, arthritic knees, a compressed disc with shooting sciatic pain, and I'm only 31! Exercise = dangerous and painful. He thought I could just zumba for a few months and be fit. Uh, no!

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My hubby is the same way!

I chose not to tell anyone (only my husband and best friend know) becasue I didn't want a lifetime of "Oh, are you allowed to eat that" everytime I put somethign near my mouth. I am 6 weeks out and my weight loss has progressed at a pretty good rate, but not at a shocking rate (-35)...so just now people are starting to ask me about losing weight and I answer that I have completely changed my eating habits and I am simply moving more, eating less. Its nobody's business except my own, it was a medical decision.

This may seem crazy and I'm not quite sure how it will play out yet but I haven't told a soul - not even my Husband. I'm going in Feb to have it done after a business trip. I just don't want to hear anyone's input. My husband wouldn't like that I'm going to Mexico and I'm not sure how he would feel about the surgery. I just want to do something for myself. I'm not sure what I would say when I came home and I'm wondering if it's possible to say nothing at all. Crazy right? Or not? I don't know -

I'm just started my 6 month diet. I am only told my hubs, my oldest son, daughter in law, mom, step dad and one friend. They are all very supportive. I know my sisters and nieces will be as well, and I will tell them, but probably after. I am not ashamed, I just don't want or need the added pressure. I am blessed, my family wants me to get this weight off and will be very supportive. I just need to tell them in MY time.

This may seem crazy and I'm not quite sure how it will play out yet but I haven't told a soul - not even my Husband. I'm going in Feb to have it done after a business trip. I just don't want to hear anyone's input. My husband wouldn't like that I'm going to Mexico and I'm not sure how he would feel about the surgery. I just want to do something for myself. I'm not sure what I would say when I came home and I'm wondering if it's possible to say nothing at all. Crazy right? Or not? I don't know -

Way crazy!! Haha. He's going to see your incisions, right? Wow keep us updated!

This may seem crazy and I'm not quite sure how it will play out yet but I haven't told a soul - not even my Husband. I'm going in Feb to have it done after a business trip. I just don't want to hear anyone's input. My husband wouldn't like that I'm going to Mexico and I'm not sure how he would feel about the surgery. I just want to do something for myself. I'm not sure what I would say when I came home and I'm wondering if it's possible to say nothing at all. Crazy right? Or not? I don't know -

I think you'll have to tell him when you get back, won't he notice that for 2 weeks your having only liquids? And then 2 weeks of puréed foods, he will think that's really weird. And he will see your incisions.

And there is my conundrum. Ithink I'll have no choice but to tell him when I get back. But by then I'll be asking for forgiveness and not permission. But that also feels strange. I don't know - I just don't need to hear all the negativity - I hate that more than anything.

for the 3mts I was making up my mind I told no one, once I knew this is what I want I told my partner and 2 sets of very close friends, I only told my family before christmas but that was because we were told I would be having the op in January, with all the delays going on I wont be having it till June, I now wish I didnt tell them all as they keep asking when is it or you wont go through with it, i was stronger when no one knew,

And I think that's part of it too. I never do anything for just me. There is absolutely nothing private in my life - and I just want this decision, experience to belong to me.

This may seem crazy and I'm not quite sure how it will play out yet but I haven't told a soul - not even my Husband. I'm going in Feb to have it done after a business trip. I just don't want to hear anyone's input. My husband wouldn't like that I'm going to Mexico and I'm not sure how he would feel about the surgery. I just want to do something for myself. I'm not sure what I would say when I came home and I'm wondering if it's possible to say nothing at all. Crazy right? Or not? I don't know -

If I am not mistaken. Its state law for a person having surgery to have another person accompany them while in surgery.

I am a very private person. I only told my parents. I do not want answer questions about the surgery.

What r u telling your bosses?

I only told my immediate family and my best friend. Not that it's any big secret, I just don't want to be barraged with questions. If anyone ever sees the surgery scars, I'm going to tell'em it's a gunshot wound I got in a drive-by. Original Gangsta in the house!

lolol! joat, that is hilarious!!