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Hi everyone. Has anyone see an impact on their social life? I'm 28 and single and I enjoy the nightlife a lot. I go out for drinks with my girlfriends at least once a week. I know post OP I shouldn't have a drink for at least 3 months. But has anyone noticed a negative impact?

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I found it extremely difficult to eat out with my friends on the beginning but you'll come up with a routine that'll suit your life and social one as well.

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Now that I can have food, I don't find eating difficult. However, I was never a nightlife person so I still sit at home with Netflix and instead of a bag of popcorn I have Jello or Water or something. I find I have a lot of free time. Apparently all I ever did was eat.

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i am also curious about this. i am only 23 and recently graduated college. i don't drink often anymore. but once i am well enough, i am hoping to be able to go out about 2x a month. i am wondering how post op patients handle alcohol and if you are able to get drunk. sounds bad, but once in a while, it's fun to let loose with friends i haven't seen in a while!

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Because its hard to time yourself with others while their eating. It's just extremely hard to watch and I just had to get over. As for going drinking your tolerance is going to change and your body may react differently to the drink. I would try your favorite drink at home first and then see how it effects you. It's not a complete struggle but it des tale time.

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a lot of my social life and enjoyment with family and friends involves eating--not just eating out but eating at their houses and at parties/events...I live in south La., and we love our food...I am also from a large Italian family that loves to eat...I already know that my social life is very likely to be significantly altered...it is one of those areas of my life where I probably should make some changes anyway--as difficult as that will be

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Hi everyone. Has anyone see an impact on their social life? I'm 28 and single and I enjoy the nightlife a lot. I go out for drinks with my girlfriends at least once a week. I know post OP I shouldn't have a drink for at least 3 months. But has anyone noticed a negative impact?

cant imagine it having a negative impact on someone single, unless you have friends hating on your newfound slim; in that case they are not truely friends.....best of luck to you????

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I just got clearance today to drink at 3 weeks !!

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Hi everyone. Has anyone see an impact on their social life? I'm 28 and single and I enjoy the nightlife a lot. I go out for drinks with my girlfriends at least once a week. I know post OP I shouldn't have a drink for at least 3 months. But has anyone noticed a negative impact?

No negative impact for me .... more positive!! I'm 25 and like you enjoy a few drinks with friends often! I had my first glass of wine 7 weeks PO. Now 3 months out I have the ability to drink the same as I did before (my tolerance has not changed unfortunately - I was keen to be a cheap date)!!! With that being said I'm putting the drinking on hold for a while (except special occasions e.g. weddings, birthdays etc.) as I am committed to making the most out of the first 6 months.

Now I am 55lbs down and 25kg lighter I have a lot of compliments coming my way and I love dressing up to go out! I have so much more confidence hence only positives for me!! :) also dinners and restaurants etc I either order a Soup or a salad and no-one seems to notice how little I do eat!!

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