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Hello,

I am a little over 4 months post op & I feel defeated. Yes, I feel fuller faster & cant eat as much, but I can still eat anything I want too. Nothing bothers me. I recently fell off the wagon & Im afraid I have stretched my sleeve. I can eat more than every before (an entire lean cuisine or smart one). And, I know most of it is mental. Temptation is winning my battle. How do I know if my sleeve is stretched?

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Hi, i am 3 wks post-op and no regrets to date. I do know that all my research showed that you could fail on this procedure. It is not a miracle cure. You still have to eat the right things and exercise. You can definitely put your weight back on. I finally decided to do it because of the jump start it could give me and the smaller stomach. I had yo-yo'd my entire life and I believe one of the reasons was my stomach. Of course the biggest reason was my emotional eating but having a stomach that was never filled up was hard to battle.

The sleeve will eventually stretch for all, this is how we will finally be able to eat enough to get on a maintenance plan. This is my personal opinion. Just realise this will take effort on your part and dont give up.. GOOD LUCK

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Search on here "Pouch Test". I don't know exactly how it works, but you're going back to basics. liquids, Full liquids, then maybe puree.. not sure. I'm not concerned with stretching the pouch because it's not the portion of the stomach that is stretchy. It *is* possible but unlikely. You're going from a period of severe restriction due to swelling & irritation to your new stomach as it is.

When you eat the entire lean cuisine do you feel satisfied, full or completely stuffed? My surgeon explained to me yesterday that full isn't the goal. Satisified is. That helped me a lot because for some reason I've been eating until I'm full thinking that is what I need to do.

I was feeling kind of depressed over a stall this weekend, but I'm moving forward & getting the positive attitude back. Hope we can help you do the same!

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1 or 2 days of bad eating isn't going to strech your sleeve. I am 7 months out, and every now and then i have a bad day. I still can't eat much at 1 meal but I can graze and eat small amounts all day if i am not paying attention. I make sure to long everything even on a bad day, it helps me keep focus and make sure it doesn't turn into a bad 2 day or week.

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I feel FULL after I eat one. Sometimes I cant finish it, but recently its become easier for me to do it. I strayed away from this site for awhile but I realized I need some sort of support system.

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I am 5 wks out and I am just starting to test my new tummy and i can get abiut 4 to 5 small really chewed up bites i. But i can eat pretty much most things ! But i look forward when o will be able to eat without getting soooo stuffed I feel the need to vomit !

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I am a little over 4 months post op & I feel defeated. Yes, I feel fuller faster & cant eat as much, but I can still eat anything I want too. Nothing bothers me. I recently fell off the wagon & Im afraid I have stretched my sleeve. I can eat more than every before (an entire lean cuisine or smart one). And, I know most of it is mental. Temptation is winning my battle. How do I know if my sleeve is stretched?

aldmbw

oh no bud - don't feel defeated!!! please

you feel fuller faster, and you can't eat as much - great - count your blessings!!!!

my NUT says your sleeve DOESN'T stretch - "most" others on the forum agree

eating anything you want ??? thats the way its supposed to be by 4 months for many - you should only eat small portions

As far as temptation goes.... don't tempt fate

at 10 1/2 months i know certain portion sizes i can eat - i use a small "baby" bowl - i know the exact amount of for example chili i can have (2/3 C)

i put that amount in bowl, no more - i would never get 2nds, people have been shot for less :lol:

to use your example of a frozen meal, i would measure out the proper portion, whatever your NUT says, - then only put that amount in bowl/plate, then you won't be tempted to eat more - even if your able to eat more

don't push your eating to find out if you can eat more - I "think" a whole dinner is too much - (could be wrong) you might be able to eat whole dinner - but you shouldn't push that amount if its more than allotted amount per NUT

twoolly said...."My surgeon explained to me yesterday that full isn't the goal. Satisfied is."

i like that true statement girlfriend :)

"fell of the wagon" - this happens to "most" of us at some time or another :(

get back on that horse, eat proper portions, no cheating allowed - and don't shoot yourself in the foot for a couple of goofed days that are done and over with, ok????

I don't see your weight on profile or ticker :( - but i'm sure you are doing great :)

congrats on your life :)

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No no no.You are just going through the same thing a lot of us felt when we were healed!

Now is of course the critical decision making time.Do you want to succeed or not?How do I get back on track and stay there?Was all the suffering I've gone through for nothing and if I dont beat this now,then what?What is our options really as you cna revise to another surgery but that is no guarantee for success either.

We can all eat a lot of carbs.And if we eat carbs with Protein we can even eat more Protein, well I can.When I eat dense protein only,I can only eat a small portion so that should be where you start again.

Protein first.What I do when I fall totally off plan,I reset.Which means this for me.For 3 days,I eat protein only.For meals,for Snacks.And I dont limit my meals to 3 but I snack on protein when I want to.By day 3 you dont feel like eating the Snacks anymore and then you are ready to incorporate veggies again,and after 3 days of protein only,to me the veggies seems like heaven..lol

I doubt your sleeve has stretched already at 4 months out.You've just fallen into bad habits and thank goodness your tummy will still restrict you if you eat your Proteins first.

Call it a carb detox.Its tough but you can make up your own rules and your own plan and then you decide to stick to it.Take responsibility for what you eat one meal at a time.You can do this!

I often read this thread of "what have you eaten today,sleevers?" and then I wonder what they would say if I would post what I ate that day?Failure!Not true.We are human and sometimes have to learn hard lessons.Now seems to be yours.Mine was at 5 months out.

You can get back on track,you dont have to eat what you can eat,just because you can.This can be in your control.I can really relate to how you feel.Took me quite a while before I stopped being mad for even being able to eat all the junk I could until I gave myself a good talking to and decide to beat the flab for once and for all.

So,I'll be waiting for your post that says...back on plan and feeling great!

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Thanks for the support everyone! I need to get back on the wagon & realize everything I went through to get here. im currently down 54lbs & just need my head out of my a$$!

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54 is great for 4 months out!

Now,start waging war with the fat! thats what I now do!

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Thanks for the support everyone! I need to get back on the wagon & realize everything I went through to get here. im currently down 54lbs & just need my head out of my a$$!

You can do it:)

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