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Crying...why Am I Having More Issues?

I seriously feel like I am NEVER going to heal. Even throughout all of my issues I have been able to be thrilled that I had this surgery. I know that it will change my life, but in the meantime I keep having all of these isolated issues and I am so frustrated. I do NOT do pain. Self admittedly, I am a huge baby when I am sick, but this is just different. First my 1.5% rare reaction to the anesthesia that had me bed bound for almost a week, then I suffered from severe weakness, and then when I finally started feeling better last week I mopped my floor and held my 2 month old nephew and started having severe abdominal pain (which has only partially gone away, but has improved) and NOW as of Sunday around noon I started having SEVERE right sided flank pain. I have NEVER experienced this type of pain before and I have no idea what it is and I am just so SICK of feeling bad. I tried to lie down a few minutes ago and I literally could not lie down because the pain was so severe and I had to get up and get back in my recliner which is where I am now writing this post in tears. I just want to go to sleep and wake up and feel somewhat normal. I see all of these posts about people shopping and doing all of these normal tasks and that is ALL I want to do. Nothing crazy, no marathon weight lifting, or anything else that would be out of the ordinary. I JUST want to be able to climb in my car (which I tried to do earlier and could not get in bc of the pain) and go somewhere and get back to my life. This is driving me crazy. I have no idea what the problem could be, but it has certainly gotten worse since Sunday and I am so furious. Not to mention, I am supposed to start my new job in 3 weeks....3! If I can't start when I told them I will lose my job and this is the service I have been trying to get on with for an entire year. I will be devastated.

I went from being such an active person to having to sit inside and stare at the TV for the last 3 weeks and it is just not working for me. I can't stand it. Has anyone else had this type of pain and if so, what was it?

Sorry for the ranting, but I am seriously beside myself with angst. I am always able to be positive and I have been up until just now. Even when I was lying in the hospital bed unable to move my body at all because of my reaction during surgery, I had a huge smile on my face because I knew I had so much to look forward to. Now, I am just starting to think I'm never going to get better. Everyone else (other than the unlucky few) seem to be doing so well after only a few days and I've had 3 weeks. I feel like I'm never going to stop crying. I just wanted to lie down and go to sleep and wake up tomorrow with no pain. :(

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  • If you're in that much pain 3 weeks after surgery, and it's not getting better, you need to call your doctor. Severe right sided flank pain could be your gall bladder or something else, and if you're

  • so sorry you are having so much trouble, have you called your doctor? Have you been back to the dr.? Sounds like you are in a depression, bad... I would see the dr. be checked out real good, make s

  • Oh good, I am glad you called. Just make sure they know your pain is severe and you feel like you're getting worse, not better.

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Please keep us updated. Will be praying for you.

I know that it is always awful to have to go to the ER, but I am glad that you are getting checked out. It does sound like last week you pushed yourself a little hard and set yourself back lifting a little too much - it's hard when you're used to doing so much more and then you're feeling better and it's easy to slip into hurting yourself again. I am 9 weeks out and my boss had me move a ton of boxes on Sunday and I have been having abdominal pain/burning on and off since then. A good reminder that it takes a LONG time to completely heal and I need to be a little more sensitive to my body.

It sounds like you've had just a really hard time all around though, so I do really hope that this is something small that they will be able to treat quickly and get you back on the road to recovery. Let us know how it goes - I'll keep you in my thoughts!

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Thanks to all for the well wishes. My hubby took me to the ER around 3p yesterday when he got off and aftwr running several tests they admitted me to the hospital for observation, pain management, and antibiotics. First of all I have a UTI, I'm mildly dehydrated, and the severe pain is coming from my kidney. The area around my kidney is swollen and the pain is now radiating from the right flank (around my kidney) to my upper right quadrant in my abdomen. They did blood work and there were some small abnormalities, but nothing too drastic and they also did a CT scan which showed no failure or swelling to my kidney at this time which is good news. The bad news is that they are unaware of what is cashing the swelling and severe pain around my kidney. They are stumped and of course I'm frustrated bc I want to know what is going on and how to fix it. They are wanting to do a couple days of antibiotics to see if that inadvertently helps with the pain bc there is a slight chance that the UTI is causing the swelling. Not likely bc the UTI isn't that severe, but weirder things have happened.

So, all that said, I'm getting 4mg Morphine every 2 hours and Phenergan and IV antibiotics every 6. I'm typically very sensitive to pain meds, but the morphine is not touching my pain. It is very severe and very bizarre. The doctor, whom I've actually not seen today, refused to change my pain meds until he can speak to me tomorrow so while I'm getting some managemwnt of my pain I am disappointed that they aren't trying a little harder to control it. If it weren't for the phenergan, which knocks me out cold for about 3 hours at a time, I'd probably be much more miserable. I am hoping to get more answers soon, but I am at least at a facility where I'm being somewhat taken care of.

Thanks again for all of your prayers and for checking in.

Rachael

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Also, please excuse my spelling and grammar errors just this once. My head is really foggy and my fingers don't exactly want to do what I want them to do. :)

Yeah for your husband for taking you. Its great that they are doing something & not sending you home yet. Thank you so much for keeping us updated & please continue.

It sounds as if you may be experiencing gallbladder issues. Better safe than sorry...seek medical attention. I hope you feel better soon. Best of luck

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It sounds as if you may be experiencing gallbladder issues. Better safe than sorry...seek medical attention. I hope you feel better soon. Best of luck

They actually thought it could be that, but my gallbladder, along with all of my other organs, looks great.

They are just trying to figure out where this swelling is coming from or what is causing it. I will be glad when they do, but the good news is that my organs all look fine. No kidney or gallstones.

I hope that all is going to be well with you. Sending prayers your way...

I'll be praying for you. Think "happy" thoughts!

So glad that you are getting some help now. Hopefully they will get your pain under more control very soon. Get lots of rest and let your body heal.

I'm sure glad they admitted you. I hope they get to the bottom of this soon! Hope they get your pain under control.

please continue to advocate for yourself. i know what you are going through. 38 days in the hosp. did theylook for abcesses? maybe from a very small leak? each day is different for me. sleeved 7-24, fine for 10 days than the rest is history. you will feel better........i am proof. had the best healthy day yest but today drank too fast this am and vomited. my own fault. keep s posted and make sure they do a CT with contrast!!!!!

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Hey guys. First, thank you all for your prayers and kind words. I was admitted after going to the ER on Tuesday and was in the hospital for 5 days. I was on IV morphine and dilaudid around the clock for my pain and on phenergan for my nausea. I had multiple tests ran to try to find the root of my problem. First they did an ultrasound (everything looked fine) & then they did a CT with contrast through my IV (everything looked fine). After my 2nd day there my surgeon was contacted and he immediately jumped in and wanted to make sure nothing was wrong from my surgery. He ordered another ultrasound and another CT with contrast, although this time I had to drink the contrast to make sure there was no leak. Both of these tests looked "beautiful" (my surgeon's words) and there was no leak. I was very happy that everything looked great, but extremely frustrated that they could not figure out what was going on. On a last ditch effort, they called in a disease control specialist to see if he could help with the diagnoses because there was clearly a problem. I was unable to sit down, lay down, stand, or walk without a nurse or my husband's assistance. It has been a horrible week to say the least. This has been the most excruciating pain I've ever experienced. Anyways, this doctor thinks that I have SHINGLES without the rash. So, I was discharged and started on antivirals plus a ton of pain meds to help with the pain. Please pray he is right because I'm so sick of being sick and in so much pain! My blood test did show I had elevated liver enzymes which was of some concern, but I will go back for another blood test this week to see if that has gone back down or if they need to dig further.

Thanks again!

Wow! I can't even believe this!

Please keep us updated on your progress. I sure hope they give you some answers and some relief soon.

Yes plz keep us updated. I knw if its shingles its painful. I had tht in 2004 & a yr later after effects to my left side. (nerve damage)

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