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I am 24 and i have been fat my entire life. I have always neglected to do things with friends or go outside of my house because of being made fun of. I am 5'1 and weight 396lbs. I have done diets and changed my eating habits but nothing works. I have high blood pressure, diabeties, sleep apena and pains in my feet, knees and back. I am extranged from my family as i was abused by my father and my mother choose guys over me. I work full time and go to school full time but do not have any insurance. I need help. I have never been kissed. Nor gone on a date. I want to live. Please someone help me :(

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I'm sorry you are and have gone through so much. :( Perhaps you will be able to secure a job with insurance that will allow you to have surgery or maybe you can look into self pay outside of the country. I have seen many success stories who have gone that route.

Hang in there sweet girl.

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I am so sorry :( I want to cry for you. I hope things turn around for you... all I can say is to save up the money as best as you can, mabye finance the rest. this surgery can change your life! ((hugs))

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Babes I don't know what state you live in but STATE INSURANCE MEDICAID DOES COVER THIS SURGERY!! I hope u can apply for local state coverage this way u don't have to pay. You have your whole life in front of you and challenges may be in front of you but people have loads of information and are willing to share I live in Delaware didn't have medical because I stopped paying for cobra the de state signed me up i didnt even know:)) my doctor happened to take this coverage and I continued on from there I hope this helps and I am praying that you get to live the life you'd dreaming of cheers love

Parris

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Hi! I'm 4'11 and my highest weight was 363. I lost 70 pounds doing the Atkins diet. I gained half of that back, but I started doing 1500 calories and lost 32 pounds so far! I know you don't want to go out, but any bit of movement will help you. My knees were always hurting as well as my feet, but as soon as the pounds start rolling off, the pain eases and the feet stop swelling. As for the surgery, I could never afford it and I lived paycheck to paycheck. I was lucky that my job offered the surgery at 100%, so I jumped at the chance :) I'm from Texas too, btw.

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I live in Texas and the health insurance through my employer has an exclusion as well. I was able to pay for my surgery by signing up for an HSA last year during open enrollment. The maximum I could put in was $5000, which they take out of my pay over the course of a year in increments, but I could use all of the account money as of January 1st of this year. The money was put on a debit card, and I was able to use that to pay for my surgery this past February in Mexico. All I had to do was submit an itemized receipt for the surgery, and a letter of medical necessity to verify that the charge on the card was for medical expenses. I think most employers' open enrollment is coming up soon, so if it is available at your job, sign up. I think some places also call it a Healthcare Reimbursement Account.

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I want to live. Please someone help me :(

hey Texas

i am here to listen - i am reaching my hand out to you - i feel very bad that you are dealing with so many problems.

you want/need to have the sleeve, but you don't have any insurance to help pay. make phone calls, ask for guidance, maybe someone can point you in a good direction for financial assistance. Maybe you could qualify for a loan?

you do have a job outside of the home, and you are going to school too. thats a lot to undertake. good for you- alot to keep you busy, being out of the house is good

you've dealt with lots of personal problems from your family - that hasn't helped matters

common medical problems of yours, diabetes, high blood pressure, CPAP - bad knees etc. - these ailments can usually be helped or totally be eliminated with the assistence of the sleeve.

every single thing you mentioned - i also was dealing with. about 2 months PO - i am now without any meds or CPAP, knees are doing better too. no fun having to deal with any of the above

i hope you can talk to someone around you - you shouldn't be alone now - i hope you can reach out to someone to help you. maybe you have to bite your tongue and take that first step

i would like to come over to your house and be with you, to help you - unfortunately that can't happen, i am a good listener, but i don't know how i could help, other than using my ears.

take care - yes sleevers are here to help you, but we're just here on a computer

i hope you can find a friend/make a friend/school mate, someone from work - just to talk with, so you don't feel so lonely

hope you can figure something out about getting the sleeve

sending good vibes and thoughts your way

good luck my friend

take care

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Have you tried something like care credit?

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You should call the patient coordinators for some of the mexican surgeons. Some of them will work out a payment plan with a modest downpayment. I used Dr. aceves and he does stuff like that sometimes.

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