So an old friend of who has never met my husband and has a pretty crappy husband has reached out twice to my husband on facebook via private messages. The questions where asking about me and how I was doing. I am capable of answering these questions and I wonder why she is asking him and not me. When it happens my husband tells me immediately and tells me that he thinks its weird.

I always brag about him because honestly he is freaking awesome and handsome. Not sure what to think. Can you guys share your input?

Thanks everyone for your help! I feel better :-)

I split up with my husband over online "friendships" that became too friendly. I don't think you can ever be too cautious with regard to this kind of thing. I trusted my husband and never dreamed I should be checking up on him, and by the time I did, it was too late. I think you are wise to confront her on it, so that she can know your marriage is intact and will hopefully stop trying to pull anything (assuming those are her motives). If it is innocent, she will totally understand, since she is a good friend.

I split up with my husband over online "friendships" that became too friendly. I don't think you can ever be too cautious with regard to this kind of thing. I trusted my husband and never dreamed I should be checking up on him' date=' and by the time I did, it was too late. I think you are wise to confront her on it, so that she can know your marriage is intact and will hopefully stop trying to pull anything (assuming those are her motives). If it is innocent, she will totally understand, since she is a good friend.[/quote']

I agree. Its best if I confront her. Hopefully she doesn't get offended. Maybe I'll make a joke of it... I just hate doing these type of things they make me uncomfortable. I will have to put on my big girl panties and give her a call. Thanks!

I would definitely bring it up to her, also let her know that your husband is not very comfortable with it either. Considering she has never met him, I find it kind of weird that she would reach out to him like that. If it were me I'd be bothered. I'm sorry, but there are just some scandalous women out there. The only time I ever contacted my husbands friends directly was when I was planning a suprise party for him, and I needed their help to get him out of the house, at that I let the wives know that I would be contacting the guys. I couldn't imagine crossing that boundary, so just ask yourself if you would feel appropriate reaching out to her husband in a similar manner.

If she is your friend, and not really his, I don't see why you can't just say "Hey, Joe is uncomfortable with you contacting him on fb. After all, he doesn't really know you, the way I do. Or he's not friends with you , the way we are. Good grief! She should just understand!

I would definitely bring it up to her' date=' also let her know that your husband is not very comfortable with it either. Considering she has never met him, I find it kind of weird that she would reach out to him like that. If it were me I'd be bothered. I'm sorry, but there are just some scandalous women out there. The only time I ever contacted my husbands friends directly was when I was planning a suprise party for him, and I needed their help to get him out of the house, at that I let the wives know that I would be contacting the guys. I couldn't imagine crossing that boundary, so just ask yourself if you would feel appropriate reaching out to her husband in a similar manner.[/quote']

I mentioned it to her and she laughed and said ”your man is whipped!” Lol... I guess??

If she is your friend' date=' and not really his, I don't see why you can't just say "Hey, Joe is uncomfortable with you contacting him on fb. After all, he doesn't really know you, the way I do. Or he's not friends with you , the way we are. Good grief! She should just understand![/quote']

I've talked to her about it and I think she understood!

Yay!

It's probably innocent. Maybe she felt she would get more of a response from him since you just had surgery. However one thing I don't do is brag about the man I'm with to my friends. I don't talk about how great he is in bed or how great he is to me in general because girlfriends can be jealous and catty and jinx what you have even if they don't do anything.

I mentioned it to her and she laughed and said ”your man is whipped!” Lol... I guess??

Oh Hell No!!!! She did NOT just call your man whipped?!

She's fishing in waters that she shouldn't be! Hubby needs to unfriend her. I don't care what her feelings are about it. Then he needs to make sure his settings are such that she can't PM him anymore. He didn't want to "friend" her in the 1st place. He should feel free to UF her!

If she says anything, just tell her it was his decision, as it's his wall.

I think it would be a little different if she hadn't talked to you in awhile and posted ON HIS WALL asking about you but to PM him and more than once, is suspect. Especially when she speaks with you on a regular basis.

I don't trust her!

It's probably innocent. Maybe she felt she would get more of a response from him since you just had surgery. However one thing I don't do is brag about the man I'm with to my friends. I don't talk about how great he is in bed or how great he is to me in general because girlfriends can be jealous and catty and jinx what you have even if they don't do anything.

I totally agree about the bragging, I think this iswhy she contacted my hubby. I don't talk about him anymore but because she talks so bad about her husband. She has an awful relationship that she stays in due to personal reasons. I feel bad for her. I just wish happiness for her and her family. I guess this is why I don't want to hurt her feelings.

Oh Hell No!!!! She did NOT just call your man whipped?!

She's fishing in waters that she shouldn't be! Hubby needs to unfriend her. I don't care what her feelings are about it. Then he needs to make sure his settings are such that she can't PM him anymore. He didn't want to "friend" her in the 1st place. He should feel free to UF her!

If she says anything' date=' just tell her it was his decision, as it's his wall.

I think it would be a little different if she hadn't talked to you in awhile and posted ON HIS WALL asking about you but to PM him and more than once, is suspect. Especially when she speaks with you on a regular basis.

I don't trust her![/quote']

lol! Your sounds like that little voice in my head that keeps me cautious! Love it! :-)