My whole life I been the black sheep.always over weight as a kid.my mom and sisters were beautiful and thin.I was big and awkward.I'm always way to worried what people think bout me.my weight has killed me inside being 389 at 6'0... No one understands what I'm going threw. I cry most nights...eating was the only joy I had.. so I had the surgery that my dad threw me into at the last minute wit only a month to get ready for this life xhamge. I been sleeved April 3rd.six weeks.I've lost 40lbs. I have no idea what I'm doing.no guidence, had the self paid surgery in Mexico I barely got any info when I left. I haven't been doing anything right.I feel so lost and hopeless.. I'm in more agony then I was before my surgery.I have no clue how much I should be eating or what.. I'm sure by now it doesn't matter since Im certain I already stretched my back.I'm trying to feel positive trying to do what I think is right but I'm failing miserably... No support at home or friends who understand.. I feel so hopeless..

OMG you have lot 40lbs in 6 weeks u must be doing something right! You have already had so much good advise the only thing I can think of is eat no more than 1/3C. at each meal and have a midmorning protien shake and maybe a midmorning protien bar or shake. Try to relax what you are feeling in the overwhelming hormone rush when the weight starts coming off! You will be feeling better in a few weeks. good Luck!!

Your doing great. Come here for help we are family. We have have these doubts and worries. Ask us anything any time.

I like the saying that it's not what happens to us that matters but how we react to what happens to us that matters. I rarely have anyone that supports or approves of me either but I eventually realized that I'm not the problem. It's not my fault that others are irresponsible and insecure. That's their problems. It's not my fault that others often choose to mistreat me and, in the process, lose out on the opportunity to have a healthy relationship with me. I can't control the bad decisions that others make but I can control the decisions that I make. Sounds to me like you are trying your best to take care of yourself and improve your situation even in the presence of adversity. That is very difficult to do, trust me because I know, but yet you are doing it. This surgery can change our lives as long as we keep putting one foot in front of the other. I don't know if I can have the surgery yet but I'm so thankful that I have people like you that I can follow in your footsteps. I look forward to hearing about all your successes. Please keep us posted on your progress.

I'm in wa state. Bainbridge island....

For vitamins I was told take children's vitamins twice a day and tums 2 a day that's it.

I haven't had my surgery yet so I'm not sure what kind of supplements that you are able to take yet. However, I just want to mention that SAM-e, St. John's Wort, chromium, and a really good multivitamin tend to help me feel better when I get moody, all of which are available at Walmart.

Thank everyone for taking time to respond... I just felt very low today.. its just hard when u don't know what to do.. see my problem is I over think everything and worry myself sick. And I haven't found my common ground yet... If I had a normal daily routine that I knew was right and healthy ill relaxes... Just need better habits and more positive thinking

Hugs..first I hope that you see what your father did for you as a blessing. There are many people here who want the surgery so bad, but do not have insurance nor can they afford this. You are truly blesses to have someone to take the iniative and help set this up and pay for this. Please don't feel like you don't have support, because you have us. You have seen the food advise above follow it. Have you thought about exersizing?? I can tell you if your 6 feet tall and once the weight comes off, and if your exercising you can have one h£ll of an athletic body. Try searching online for a local support group meeting.

I found it really helped for the first while to track everything I ate, drank, exercise, vitamins, everything. I just wrote it on plain paper. It really helped me make sure I was getting everything in I needed to. Until you really get in a routine and get some "go to" foods you can rely on, it will really help. I even wrote down my feelings and stuff in a notebook that nobody else could see. Sometimes it just helps to write it down and get it out.

I have typed up my meal plans for post surgery...if you would like a copy pm me your email and I will send it to you.

As far a supplements I was instructed a flinstone complete in the morning and evening. Calcium chews (I use Viactive) 3 times a day. You cant eat them within 2 hours of the Vitamins. I take 1 B100comdeplete once a day and 1 B12 sublingual a week.

My basic guidelines are 70 grams of Protein a day

64 ounces of Fluid

30 or less grams of carbs

everyones guidelines are a bit different but this is what got me to goal

Where in Mexico did you have your surgery? I don't like that you aren't getting aftercare and I am about to book in Mexico and want to make sure about the people I am planning to go with. Thanks!

Where in Mexico did you have your surgery? I don't like that you aren't getting aftercare and I am about to book in Mexico and want to make sure about the people I am planning to go with. Thanks!

Sarah35 - Where you planning on going back to Mexico for all your followup care? If you were, then you're the first I've heard that is doing that. Usually the aftercare is with your primary care physician, support groups and this forum, probably in that order. In Mexico, they make sure you are healthy enough for the surgery, perform the surgery, monitor your recovery until you are healthy enough to travel again, give you the information you need to pass on to your PCP and also some aftercare instructions on diet, etc to follow.

HI there....No I don't plan to travel to Mexico for aftercare, however, the group I have been talking to says that they offer one year of phone follow-up care after surgery. I wanted to make sure that this wasn't the same place. Thanks!

Elainarose-- I really think you are going to turn a negative into a positive. You already took the first step by looking for support, and you have sure come to the right place - this forum is awesome. Also, check out a website called the world according to eggface -- she has to s of suggestions and recipes. Good luck!

Elaina - I live in Lynnwood and am having my surgery done by Dr Chebli. There is a great support group that meets at Northwest Hospital once a month. Maybe you can take the ferry over once a month to join us.

First of all that's not how my trip went at all in Mexico. I know most people have had great trips there. I did not. I was given one paper on my after care that was it. I had a different Dr come in every couple hours give me different instructions.no one spoke any English so I didn't understand half of it. I never planned on goin back to Mexico for after care. That's not what I ment by that.. I am happy to have the surgery but I left the hospital feeling anxious and scared.... And now I'm six weeks in and still have a lot of anxiety I came here to ask for help not to bad talk the surgery at all. I am blessed to have been sleeved.. this was my first surgery and I was away from my family for a week in a place I never been alone. So ya I would of did it different if I had the choice I would of paid more to have had it done here in the states.