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I want a baby! :think Gotta get banded so I can lose enough to get rid of this insulin resistence and then maybe I'll start ovulating again. Anyway, ya'll are making me sad and I don't even have one yet! :cry

One thing that troubles me about having kids. My hubby and I will never in a million years be able to afford for me to not work. I'll finally have my baby and I'll have to dump her off with a babysitter 5 days a week. I know lots of people do it, it just doesn't seem right. :phanvan

Good luck to all of you with kids going off to various stages of school! :)

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Well My Son Gets "dumped" Off To Day Care Everyday Sometimes You Just Have To Do What U Have To Do! I Love My Son More Thean Anything In The World But Thats Just Life

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I dont consider having sent my daughter to day care as dumping. I will admit that I felt really guilty. But now I know how much she has learned socially and academically, I could never homeschool a child. Its not me, not my bag. I am not good at teaching anyone, I have no patience.

Just find a daycare with a good teaching program, the baby will be ok.

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Me neither my son goes to a in home day care with 4 other babies his age and he LOVES it he plays allday. I just said that becuse the other lady said it like that.

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I dont think she was saying "dumping" as a bad thing at all. I felt the same way when I had my three and I never took them to daycare. It was just my belief and I was fortunate to be able to stay home with them. Now that they are all in school, it is time for me to live a little and get a job and enjoy me again. It's exciting! :)

Angie

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I didn't mean it negatively toward anyone! :) I'm just saying that I would feel guilty myself. Definitely nothing against any working mothers out there because my mom was one. Both me (I think?) and definitely my sister were in daycare from very early on. My sister stayed with an older lady that with the help of her daughter kept a total of 6 children. She would always keep them until they were 3 and she took two at a time. When the kids turned 3, they would move on to other daycare options and she would take in 2 new babies. It was a constant rotation and worked really well. I only hope that I can find that kind of arrangement when I can finally get rid of some of this fat and have a baby of my own. :phanvan

Please don't take any offense from the way I worded my post! I definitely didn't mean anything bad, just the wrong choice of words.:embarassed:

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Tonya,

You are fine. No offense takin here. I knew what you meant. It's a decision every Mother has to make. Do I stay home or do I work and send them to daycare? I chose to stay home because that is what I wanted to do and it worked out well with me and my husband. Now that we are seperated and the kids are out of the house, I feel like I am going through the empty nest syndrome a little too early! Since the other two have been going to school I would take them, drop them off, and then me and my youngest would have a good time together. We played alot, napped together, went to lunch together. I got out of the van this morning and went to open the door for her to get out but there was NO Dee Dee to get out of the Van. <sigh> I will get used to it. Just give me time and a job and it will get better!! lol

Angie

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I got out of the van this morning and went to open the door for her to get out but there was NO Dee Dee to get out of the Van.

Awwwww!!!!! :think

I went back to work when my DD was 2. She LOVED Day Care! My little foray back into the work world was short-lived, and by then she was going to pre-school, so it was a very easy transisiton.

I was very passionate back then about being a stay-at-home Mom and NOT dong the day care thing. My attitude has changed a bit since then, even though we are fortunate for me to have been able to stay at home for the last 7 years (minus that 9 month brain fart that sent me back to work 5 years ago). Anyway, day care doesn't have to be a bad thing.

And I don't care who you are, any Mom PREFERS to stay at home with a little one for longer than the 8-12 weeks maternity leave. If only we all could! So, yeah, you feel like you are "dumping" off at day care, even when it's the best decision for your family for Mom to work.

So, I know what you meant by that Tonya. This morning I'm really appreciating my hubby and his job. We aren't rolling in the dough, but we get by somehow. Even he's surprised we have been able to make it this long without any real income from me. Either way you choose, it's hard!!!!

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I guess I just took a little offence to it because I wish that I was able to stay home with my son. But his dad is not in the picture, so I have to be the one to bring home the bacon or so they say. I first had to leave him at day care at 7 months old its a stuggle everyday for me when I have to leave him. sorry for jumping all over you but it stung a little

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I agree with you on that. I am now without a husband and now I have to get back into the work force. I am forced too and its hard to swallow. At least they are old enough to go to school and hopefully (knock on wood) I can find something that will work around them so I dont have to put them anywhere to spend that extra money. We shall see. I understand what you mean and wish there is a way you could stay home but we all have to make sure they are taken care of and it hurts to drop them off everyday. I am just finding that out myself. :) We all are great mother's on here and we all love our babies. Cheers to our little one's that make our lives much more happier, life wouldnt be the same without them.

Angie

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We all are great mother's on here and we all love our babies. Cheers to our little one's that make our lives much more happier, life wouldnt be the same without them.

Amen! :amen:

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Well my dd just started kindergarten this week and she loves it. I still have my 2 year old home with me.....before long she will be in pre-k and then what will i do? Sad just thinking about it. Maybe time for another one....or not. LOL.

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Well, I remember my first day of kindergarten, almost 20 something years ago. It was catholic school in NY. I remember the kids asking "Is That Your Grandma and Grandpa?". I literally died and never wanted to be seen with my parents again. My parents had grey hair and stretchy clothes and the old kids had 20 something moms. My mom was 40 when she had me, so this explains itself.quote]

I was a late in life baby, too and people were always asking my mom if I was her granddaughter. She was not amused. Her sister (my aunt) was 44 when her TWINS were born. Years later, after we were all grown, one of the twins said, "You know, I never really felt like my mother wanted me". HELLO....she was 44! Would YOU have wanted you?

My granddaughter lives with me. She's 14 (God help me!) and the second day of school this year someone said to her, "I saw you and your mom yesterday."

Cheyenne said, "That wasn't my mom. That was my grandmother."

The other kid said, "Well, she doesn't LOOK old." He's my new best friend.

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