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:think Do I cry now or later....my worst nightmare has come true. My banding is scheduled for 9/25...I can't do it, I am in school all day and all night.....Ugh. This surgery was supposed to happen in the summer because of my school schedule. The doc said it was no problem, the pulm doc said no problem...yeah when did they change their mind. Its all VI's fault for saying "getting your sleep apnea testing sooner won't get your surgery sooner". wtf....pardon my language! I think the doc only does mondays and tuesday surgerys....per OH.com...omg he never told me that!!! I am finding there are a lot of things the surgeon didn't tell me. School is too expensive for me to miss school. Of course hubby didn't help he said i have a low tolerance to pain and that I'd miss a whole month of school....of course he was talking out his butt....he is testy lately because he is getting laid off from work tomorrow..I am mad at him now, I will forgive him later....i just want to stay mad at him for now.

okay back to topic.....sadnesss......it just figures this would happen to me. I could do a thursday surgery then I'd only miss one class and could be back to class on monday. Ugh if I have to wait till Christmas break I am gonna scream!! I dont' fit in my clothes I can't afford to buy new ones (remember ..hubby getting laid off ) my kids need school clothes....Okay I need to stop whinning now!! Thanks for letting me vent!!! (i am crossing my fingers and hoping that he has a sensitive side and makes an exception--but ugh I hate asking for special treatment).

Best Wishes!!!

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i got my sergery durning school, i dont know most people say they can go back to work but i didnt go back to school for about 9 days, yah i missed 9 days. but im in HS so i dont know might be easier for you, and id get some 1 to hold you book for you cuz i was in pain when i had to pick up my bookbag , i took a bit longer themn most people to heal probley cuz of the diabetes but NO matter what you will be happier when you get your band,

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Thank you for listening to my ramblings. I have had 3 c-sections...so this surgery should be a breeze. The problem is that I just can't miss school. missing one day is like missing a week of class -college is so much harder than high school. I have 3 psych classes and 3 education classes...way way too much reading and researching. Someone to help with the books, classes are spaced thru the day so that isn't possible...but the good thing is because they are spaced i can go to my car between classes to get my book so I won't be carrying them all at once. (yay)

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Any chance you could talk to your professors/TAs and tell them you need to have surgery and will be missing a few days? Ask if they can help with the classes you would miss? Or arrange to have a classmate take notes?

They know that real life happens, and while it's been a looonnnggg time since I was in college, I remember getting help when I needed to.

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Any chance you could talk to your professors/TAs and tell them you need to have surgery and will be missing a few days? Ask if they can help with the classes you would miss? Or arrange to have a classmate take notes?

They know that real life happens, and while it's been a looonnnggg time since I was in college, I remember getting help when I needed to.

Thanks for the suggestion, it would not work though, its 3 psych classes and 3 education classes....Way too much to make up. And I will need to be there to take the notes because each class is (ugh) really involved. I am in the home stretch ...so these classes are critical.

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