16 Weeks Post Op & Body Image Issues!

[2bfit 62]

The journey continues. My weight loss has slowed down considerably in this last month. I fell off the wagon for a couple of weeks and I have since pulled myself back up. I am exercising and following the plan. I am not as discouraged as I would have been had I not took measurements prior to surgery. I have lost 34 inches and I have lost 40.2 lbs since the morning of surgery. Altogether, I have lost 55.2 lbs and my BMI is at 30.2! I am almost just overweight. Nothing to be upset about! But I do consider myself a slow loser.

Now the good news. I have so much energy. Exercising is easy now and my feet do not hurt. Such a blessing! I was able to get a life insurance policy for the first time too. I used to get denied because of my weight and that always worried me since I have children.

I went to the store and tried on a bathing suit and the scream could be heard around the world. I am wearing either a M 8-10 or a L 12-14 depending on the cut of the clothes. I still can't wrap my head around it.

Now the bad news. I weigh what I did in HS but my body looks nothing like it did. I now have to come to terms with the fact that my skin is so stretched out it's going to take a miracle to get it back to where it should be. Or the miracle of modern medicine! I think it was in my head that once I lost the weight everything would kind of go back into place. Boy was I wrong. I was standing in the dressing room looking at my flabby legs and I got depressed. I am working out and am trying to tighten up on my own, I just don't think it's going to work. I feel so self concious about my body. I also tried on a summer dress and it showed so much skin that I just stood there paralyzed! Not to mention the attention I am now receiving from the opposite sex. Whenever a man talks to me I am looking behind me to see who the heck he is talking to.

I have spent most of my adult life covering up my body to hide myself from the world. Now, I would love to wear all of the cute clothes that I missed out on. I just don't know how to push through this mental block. Has anybody else experienced this? I would love to hear how you overcame your fears

[Catracks 865]

I don't have a problem with showing skin that is decent looking. I tried on a summer dress without compression pants and ... YUCK!!!!

I really am going to need plastic surgery if my belly is hanging down with only half my weight gone. I mean it looked deformed. Pants are fine. Shorts are fine, but my lower belly and inner thighs are scary.

I'm scared to death of the plastics, but I think I am going to need this, but not only for cosmetic reasons. I guess it depends how bad it gets and how much I can absorb, but that part of my skin is a maze of stretch marks and it hangs over my C-section scar.

I think my fears are real. However: I know what you mean about looking behind you to see who that man is talking too. I mean, it CAN'T be ME. I do wear cute tops and pants, but I think I will be forever self conscious about my lower body.

[gramaof4 58]

Here here girls....I definately am feeling this...I have only lost 53 pounds but the opposite sex comments and flirting almost make you feel a little gitty again...Havn't felt that way in years...I am married and am definately not looking for a man, but it sure feels good to have one who is not your husband....notice that you are a fine looking woman!