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WOW! Sorry about that. I'd go and interview some other doctors and find one you like better and start going to him/her. It is possible to switch doctors.

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Dump him. With his attitude, it won't bother him but it will make you feel better. You don't need the cr@p that he's dealing out, you've got enough to worry about. Doctors generally place themselves on very high pedestals, whether its deserved or not.

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Well, I tell you, my PCP is just tickled pink to take on my follow up care. I had my surgery in Dallas, but I live in New Mexico, so I can't exactly fly to Dallas all the time. (I wish I could, my surgeon is a doll!) My PCP is bending over backwards for me, as I am his first VSG patient, so it's a change of pace for him I guess. It's not the worst thing in the world. We've had the surgery, we know how to work it. Have a doc that looks after you. It will all be ok. Emlefe- you are doing FINE!! You are being a perfect ANGEL with your food. I'm one of the ones allowed to have all the things you listed and I've lost 40 lbs. Don't let him bully you. Your stomach only holds so much. You WILL be successful. Either because of him or in spite of him!!

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Wow, I'm so overwhelmed by all of your caring and understanding posts!

I've thought about it and really am not in a place to burn bridges with this doctor. Like I said, I'm at a place where I will not have to see him again (hopefully) for a long time. I will say again that he is a VERY talented surgeon and he kept his promise in that regard. Haven't had a single complication and my recovery was seamless compared to what so many go through. I have just enough restriction that it's working -- not too much, not too little. My incisions were clean and healed beautifully. I would highly recommend him again for the SURGERY. To be fair, I read a few reviews before my surgery that said the same thing: He's a great surgeon with a horrible bedside manner. When I met him, I found him to be pompass. When my husband met him, he thought the same thing. But all of the patients I met respect him and were major success stories.

However, that being said -- yes, I will most likely try to find a PCP that can help me for the next year or so. My current internist had never even heard of this surgery until I had it, and then I had to describe what he did in detail. I like him, but I do not see him as my best ally in my journey. I'm sure he'd be glad to run labs, watch levels, and that kind of thing; but I don't see him knowing how to help set goals and adjust when needed. I do have a nurse case manager through my insurance company, and I'll talk to her more to see what she suggests. I talked to her just last week and she was far more encouraging and supportive. She understood where I've been and told me I was doing a great job and that this stall would probably break soon. You know, remind me that I'm human!!

Thank you for listening to my rant and assuring me that I had every right to feel insulted, even if it was just his use of the word "fat." He told me a few weeks after surgery to "stay away from those online forums; they're full of kooks!" -- but I'm glad I didn't listen to him. You have all been so supportive of each other, so helpful and forthcoming with advice. I don't know where I'd be without you! :)

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Whatever you do, don't quit your surgeon, unless he or she is doing something criminal or unethical.

I did and my GP was great until it came to maintenance. I was two years out and NO docs in the area will see me and I can't access their teams! Not even my GP can get me into any bariatric service in all of Atlanta!

Make your obligatory visits, and discuss your concerns. Or don't. Just keep them around in case you need them. :-) rd

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