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Your a nurse so you should be able to find another job pretty easy. Good luck to you. I would put the surgery first.

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Asche, that sucks! But even so they can't deny you vacation for a whole year! That is a crime! CA is an at-will state too but people fight it all of the time and win. So don't lose hope...

(and remember I say this as a business owner with employees!!)

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Asche I am sorry to hear about all of your troubles getting your surgery. I am a medical student and my insurance completely excludes WLS and such, thankfully we have a student health clinic and is the policy that they have to see me. I am surprised of how much difficulties your job is giving you about time off, here in Texas we have such a huge nurse shortage that you would find a job in no time! You are right is ridiculous that working in the health care field they don't want to take care of us, its all business. I have only told two of my classmates about my surgery (mine is May 10th w/ Dr. Kelly) and I only told them because one is a nutritionist (well now a medical student) and the other is a close friend. But in all honestly I am with everyone in that is noones business and I don't want to have to splain myself and deal with the stress. My husband is highly supportive, and that makes all of the difference for me. Him and my daugther are very loving and supporting and other than them and my mom noone else knows. I am seeing my doctor next week and will see what she has to say, if she refuses to see me that is against policy but I would still not be comfortable with someone who is judgemental and would find someone else (but so far from past experiences I don't think she will be). I am glad you made your appointment and are getting ready for a new life, I understand the stress of the thought of loosing your job, but that does not seem like one I would like to have anyway. You went to school too long to deal with that kind of treatment, honestly if you were my nurse and were that sick I would not want you anywhere near me LOL... a couple of weeks ago I had the flu, I skipped a class in which we had popquiz, well we does not allow make up quizzes so I got my first Zero ever in med school! (the good news is that it did not have a lot of weight but I could had come and spread the virus to everyone) so I understand your frustration. Does your state has workers compensation? here in texas they do and if they fire you specially when you have a medical note (you should consider bringing it in even if the nosy lady looks up the doctor) the place of employment has to pay part of your unemployment check (the good news is that it will give you more time to recover while getting a little bit of money and while you find a better job). Check with your lawyer and your state laws. Good luck!

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sorry for all of my typos, was typing with my ipad and just realized how horrible I did LOL

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So, as soon as I go back to work on monday (still off sick, spent quality time yesterday in the ER for some IV Levaquin and fluids), I am putting in my 2 week notice. I should have clarified - the time off I requested would have been without pay - we only get 5 days of vacation/sick/personal (it's all one lump pot) a year, and I've already used mine. It was a bad year, broke my foot, got hit by a drunk driver...my paid time off days are done for a while. I think I have maybe 1 whole day worth of accrued time at this point.

Honestly, it won't be terribly "easy" to get a new job, as I am a specialty (wound care), so I generally can't get any old floor nurse job. The politics of nursing jobs is odd that way. But I digress.

My health is worth more than continuing to work at a place that I wake up at 4am every morning before work with a knot in the pit of my stomach. They say change comes through inspiration or desperation, and I guess I've hit the desperate part. My plan will have to be that I just get back into fighting form as soon as possible after surgery and start looking for another job, or maybe go back to home care. Not sure.

-Asche, the Crazy Cat Lady

note: this was typed after consuming two tablespoons of cough Syrup with codeine - typer is not liable for not making sense or rampant spelling errors

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