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Oy!! I put on my scrubs this morning for work and they literally look like I'm wearing someone else's clothes. I really need to shop. I don't have time tonight or tomorrow but Saturday is MY day. I just have to get over this anxiety and get clothes that look good. I've got the string on my scrub top cinched up to the max, looks kinda dorky. However, that's better than looking like I'm wearing a tent. This is helping to motivate me to get over the anxiety of being disappointed at the store. I've always had a problem with feeling I wasn't worthy of new clothes but now I have better self esteem so I'm not only worthy, it has become a MUST! Thanks for being here for me and letting me vent when I need to.

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I am the direct opposite of you "hating shopping". I absolutely love it when I'm in the mood to shop. Initially for me, shopping was not an issue as I had a closet full of mixed sizes from the last time I had lost a significant amount a weight, which was about 2 years ago. So I enjoyed shopping in my own closet for a while. Once I outgrew those, and had to venture out, I went to stores like Ross, TJ Maxx, Marshall's, Target (not so much), Walmart and Kmart (the last two mainly for jeans if I could not find at the first 3 stores listed). I have looked into some of the thrift stores in my area, but I did not see any thing worth purchasing. I need to venture out to the upscale resale or consignment shops.

However, as I have come across awesome purchases in smaller sizes I have bought them so when I reach that point I will have something to wear for that stage of weight loss. I love looking at some of the new trends and thinking to myself, "that's going to look really good on me".

The push for new jeans has just come recently as my best friend informed me that I had a "saggy butt" in the pair that I had on with a belt. So I have purchased 3 pair in my current size. Which as brought really nice compliments from my husband :D.

The true issue that I am having at the moment are SHOES! I can't find many that I comfortable, because 1. I have developed arthritis in my toes in the lost two years with a foot surgery two months before I was sleeved, and 2. I am in between a wide and medium width shoe as well in-between sizes. It is a true hit or miss situation but nonetheless very frustrating. I actually walked out of a pair (just one) at work one day. Can you tell that was a big clue to stop wearing that pair?

I'm also having bra fit issues and need to go get fitted and soon!

Remember if your clothes are too big, you give the appearance of looking sloppy. Have someone snap a picture of you in your too big clothing and you will see what I mean. Show off your smaller curves, you've worked for them and earned them!

Try not to stress too much about shopping and for now only shop as necessary. Hopefully, as you continue to get smaller you will learn to love the process of fitting clothes to your new shape.

Best wishes!

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