Observations

[Catracks 865]

No. This is a woman. And the problem is that the focus is not 100% on her.

I know self-absorbed people. Despite what Dooter says, I don't play the catty games. Maybe that's why I can count my women friends on one hand with plenty of fingers left over. Just saying ...

[smkeller 3]

A quote from a "friend"

"I am so sick of this sh*t......just don't f*cking talk to me! If you are not fixing the problem maybe you are causing one. Why have friends when they are only happy when you are not....."

Like I was saying, a lot of people never had a problem with me when I was stuck at 440lb. The hypocrisy is at an all-time high! It still leaves a sore spot because someone I knew for nearly ten years never displayed this behavior until recently.

I don't know if I would be that harsh. There is a lot more competition between people than is generally realized. We have elected to undergo a profound and unusual change in our lives. This gives us a perspective on how others see and treat us that is pretty unique. I wouldn't use the new knowledge as a weapon, though, as we might act the same way were positions reversed.

[favoredone 590]

Well, I visited a friend of mine today.. Who promised to stay w/ me when I was recovering, DIDN'T happen... anyway... My sister-friend and I braved Chicago traffic and trekked up to her house... She saw me and was like.. stand up and let me INSPECT you.. I was like.. WTH.. I'm a piece of fruit on a conveyor belt or something??? She didn't say, you look nice, I can tell you've lost.. This heifer said.. Umph you gonna be something else when you lose all your weight... Shaking her head and continued.. I don't think I'm gonna be able to stand you!!!

HUH??? And this is after I gave you bags of my very expensive, stylish and mostly NEW clothes!! I wanted to punch her.. but I love the Lord and He wouldn't have been pleased... But, my feelings are really hurt... But people are people... and need help!

[Catracks 865]

Favoredone,

The only thing you can do is pray for her soul. She must be miserable.

[Tbaby 27]

I completely know what you mean' date=' I discovered that many of my girlfriends only were friends with me because I was "less attractive" but now that I am losing weight and more guys flirt with me or whatever they took it so badly and keep going all "oh its not like u lost that much weight and they look at you, what if u lose more, gosh, just stop losing weight" i really feel like this is pissing a lot of people off rather than having them feel happy for me, so i guess after my weight loss i gotta start looking for new friends, but anyway i am so happy with my progress and its their loss =']

I am going through this right now! Its hurtful, especially when you have celebrated their success !!