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I guess I better start wearing my wedding ring so no one gets the wrong idea.;)

PS I probably sound like a ****** for even starting this topic, but once a topic is started you cannot remove it.

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I guess I better start wearing my wedding ring so no one gets the wrong idea.;)

PS I probably sound like a ****** for even starting this topic, but once a topic is started you cannot remove it.

Hey..it always feels good to be admired. It doesn't sound you are leading anyone on, so enjoy!

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It doesn't take long for regulars to notice. I have women at church and local restaurants commenting all the time. Twice I have had women come up comment and even hug me with my wife watching.

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Yeah, it's a real b**ch being a sex symbol :)

I too have had a few women comment, sometimes inappropriately about my "figure" and new muscles. I really make sure to let the wifey know that I am NOT encouraging these advances.

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Oh really, I know you all lurve it, LOL!!!!

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I grab my own ass and say, "You like that don't you?"

OK, I stand corrected. ^^^^This is in the running for best post I read all day.

Nothing wrong with being noticed, hun. It makes me feel sexier and adds to the excitement when I see my hubby.

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I guess I better start wearing my wedding ring so no one gets the wrong idea.wink.gif

TRUE.

PS I probably sound like a ****** for even starting this topic, but once a topic is started you cannot remove it.

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Enjoy your new found fame Patrick!! You deserve it!

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I have not checked my posts in a while. Didn't realize this thread was still alive.

On a side note, my wife got me a new wedding band for Christmas since the old one was getting loose. She was totally understanding about the whole thing when I mentioned it, but she does not want any misunderstandings either biggrin.png .

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I was taught that the appropriate response to a compliment was a smile and a thank you. The appropriate response to crudeness is a frown and a no thank you.

As a gal, it Is sometimes hard to make you look great not come across where a guy assumes you mean "and I'd do you". Sometimes it just means you look great.

Lissa

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I love this thread. Its completely appropriate. We're all human! Its NICE to feel admired - even by those that we sometimes feel maybe felt obligated to make us feel admired in our lowest points - which usually coincide with our highest points on the scale.

What to do? Enjoy it and go tell your wife that she has exactly what all those women want! Lucky lady! :)

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It wasn't even a compliment that prompted the original posting. It was a smile from a woman I passed every day while walking on my lunch break. I have since got over it. As my wife said when I first mentioned it "OMG, now you think you're hot and she is probably just being nice."

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