Should I go for wedding cocktails on last minute invite?

Cremedream · September 27, 2011

Hi all.

well, yes, this is very off topic. I am set for lap band to VSG revision on Oct 15th and excited about it, but something funny has come up in the whole non-scale arena.

Should I got for wedding cocktails a (sorta) former friend invited me to with less than a week and a half's notice? I assume she doesn't think I can go and that the invite was more of a courtesy. We haven't seen each other in years and she was part of a group of former friend that I no longer speak to. However, I would like to express to her that I appreciate her friendship (even if it's just acquaintanceship at this point) and honor the invite. This I assume would be a surprise to her and hopefully a pleasant one. Again, I know I'm probably invited to the cocktail party for those she'd rather not have at the wedding... which is fine with me actually as we haven't been close in many years. But I'd like to take the opportunity to express that I wouldn't mind being better friends with her. Should I go to the party?

pasquini · September 27, 2011

Wow, women read sooo much into things ( no offense intended and you may well be reading it perfectly, but whew, all that has to be exhausting)

For me, if I really believed it was a back handed invite, I would most likely not attend. Now if I thought the friend invited me because they wanted me there and still considered me a friend then I'd go. :-)

Cremedream · September 27, 2011

Wow, women read sooo much into things ( no offense intended and you may well be reading it perfectly, but whew, all that has to be exhausting)

For me, if I really believed it was a back handed invite, I would most likely not attend. Now if I thought the friend invited me because they wanted me there and still considered me a friend then I'd go. :-)

I appreciate the advice, thanks!

italianlady13 · September 27, 2011

I read that and agreed completely with pasquini. Why waste energy (and calories) on someone who only invited me because she thought I would not go and only invited me out of courtesy......