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Maybe it's just me but does anybody feel like they've gotten uglier with their weight loss? I've lost 85 lbs so far and even though I have more energy, I feel like I've just gotten less pretty. Don't get me wrong, I never thought I was a knockout but at least a lil bit of a cutie. But now that my face has gotten thinner, I can't seem to make myself feel pretty with or without makeup. Are there any suggestions that can help me feel better about my looks?

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Well, not uglier per-se just more wrinkly and more lines. I don't equate that with being ugly though as I am feeling and over all looking so much better that I see it as beautiful.

BTW: looking at your picture gallery I see NOTHING about you that is ugly.

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I went through this stage as well. I always thought I was pretty smoking hot even at 270lbs, I'm a little over-confident and not willing to deny that about myself. BUT, I do remember over-analyzing every wrinkle, crinkle, flaw I could find about my face. The one thing I did was learn to apply make-up to my new oval shaped face instead of my previous round, chubby cheeked face. There is a lot of difference in face shape, and how to apply make-up. I was still stuck in my fat face regimen, and once I tweaked what I was doing, I started being less critical, and started loving what I saw in the mirror again.

The one thing I can say is that my face has changed dramatically even over the last 6-8 months. I also cut my hair to a short, stacked layered style, and it really helps add a little fullness back to my face. When I had long hair, it elongated my face, and I kind of had that 'horse face' thing going on, and I hated it.

I had a girlfriend that does hair/make-up give me some pointers, and maybe you could visit a department store make-up counter like Clinique or Estee Lauder and have them do a consult. They are typically free, and they can help you get a "look' that you want. I have a "day time" look, and a "night time" look.

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Baby girl I know what you speak up. Don't get me wrong. For my age i look pretty good. But to ME my face has change. Some for the better some for the worst. The worst being I see laugh lines that I NEVER had before and I have a freaking turkey neck. On the plus I have beautiful eyes. Boobs, butt and arms.... well don't get me started. My boyfriend doesn't seem to mind, except maybe for the butt. LOL.

Saving money now to fix what I can. Boyfriend says he will not help becuz I will probably leave him when everything is fix. :rolleyes: He he!!!!

Deb B)

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Maybe it's just me but does anybody feel like they've gotten uglier with their weight loss? I've lost 85 lbs so far and even though I have more energy, I feel like I've just gotten less pretty. Don't get me wrong, I never thought I was a knockout but at least a lil bit of a cutie. But now that my face has gotten thinner, I can't seem to make myself feel pretty with or without makeup. Are there any suggestions that can help me feel better about my looks?

OHHHH NOOOOOOO!!!! Not me, and i know vanity is one of the seven sins but since I've lost my weight, I look better! No wrinkles here at all. . .one of my daughters friends who has never seen me asked her if I was her sister. . . my daughter is 21! (I am 50 :D ) What a nice compliment. . .I think I look alot better now then when i was obese. . .

have you thought about permanent makeup? I have my eyebrows and eyeliners top and bottom done. . . its really neat not have to worry about putting on "makeup" every day and just wake up and poof there you are all beautiful!

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I looked at your gallery and I think you look better overall now. Maybe it's a psychological thing you are suffering from. Having a hard time accepting the change.

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I seen some update of people that have lost weight and I think it makes them look better. It might just be me I really don't know what to think of myself though.

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