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Well, I just had my appointment, and my VSG is scheduled for Monday, February 21. I am reading all of these other happy/excited posts and wishing so much that I could allow myself to feel happy or excited instead of feeling like I am marching towards my executioner. I am incredibly afraid of having surgery. The concept of it scares me so much. I am so positive something terrible will happen and I will die. There is no solution to it either. Waiting until later will not make it better, and nothing I can do makes me feel better about the chance that I may die during surgery. I know that this is the right decision for my health, but I can't help but follow that up with 'as long as I make it.' Is anyone else having feelings like this? It would be great if we could all encourage each other. At this point I am worried I won't be able to get myself to the hospital to have the surgery.

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I am scheduled for March 10th and I am excited! Strangely, I'm not anxious or scared - just excited that I am fortunate to get this great new tool that will help me to lose weight and keep it off. I think feelings of fear or anxiety are pretty common for anyone undergoing any type of surgery -- there is always a risk when it comes to surgery. But if you have confidence in your surgeon, try to focus on how great you will feel once you get through the rough part. Surgery is never a walk in the park, but the end result will be so worth it. I wish you luck and hope you have a safe surgery!

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HI,

i too have been having some conflicting feelings regarding surgery. (I'm planning

my sleeve for March 15th with Dr.Ramos Kelly.) At times i let

my mind wander too far into the unknown and get myself worked up. but the fact is I know it is

going to be fine.

Look at how many thousands upon thousands of people have surgeries every day and turn out

with great results.Even when many of these surgeries are elective (like face lift,tummy tuck,lipo,etc.)

Many surgeries have to be done in order to save people's lives and

A LOT of even those very risky procedures turn out just like they are expected to...just fine.

I have had 2 other surgeries in the past, gallbladder and ovarian cyst and I came

through them with flying colors.I try to remember that whenever my mind starts

trying to wander a bit too much into "anxiety land" and the 'what if's".

If you need encouragement, I will be here to help you. Maybe you can help me here and there

in times of weakness.:rolleyes: We are doing something wonderful for bodies and minds

by having this surgery. I'm tired of being fat and I'm ready to do something about it.And

I know this is the tool that is going to help me achieve health,happiness,

opportunity,and a NEW LIFE! Don't we deserve it?? So please don't let the small risks

of having surgery hold you back from what you will achieve with the great BENEFITS

from surgery!! you will be fine! hang in there!

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Well, I just had my appointment, and my VSG is scheduled for Monday, February 21. I am reading all of these other happy/excited posts and wishing so much that I could allow myself to feel happy or excited instead of feeling like I am marching towards my executioner. I am incredibly afraid of having surgery. The concept of it scares me so much. I am so positive something terrible will happen and I will die. There is no solution to it either. Waiting until later will not make it better, and nothing I can do makes me feel better about the chance that I may die during surgery. I know that this is the right decision for my health, but I can't help but follow that up with 'as long as I make it.' Is anyone else having feelings like this? It would be great if we could all encourage each other. At this point I am worried I won't be able to get myself to the hospital to have the surgery.

Because any weight loss surgery requires a lifestyle change, you should feel very comfortable with the idea. Perhaps you should consider postponing until you feel comfortable with it. As a friend once said "If your head says 'yes' but your heart says 'no' then hold off but if your heart says 'yes' and your head says 'no', go for it". I thought that was really good advice and do use it in my life.

Good luck,

Sue

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Totally normal to be nervous, scared, excited, anxious... I can think of 100's of other words. This is a life changing journey - one that I would gladly repeat! I wish I had done this sooner - I am in my late 40's but at least I will live the next half of my life much healthier and thinner!

Best wishes!

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I am scared. So scared. I just have this awful feeling mixed with excitement, so it is driving me crazy. I do not want to leave my children motherless. i do not know if its the fear of going to Mexico for surgery or the surgery iself. But it doesn't matter because it's still fear. I am also more scared because I am struggling with the preop diet and the not smoking. The fear is causing me to smoke and the smoke is causing me fear. I just bought an electric cigarette and it is charging so we'll see. Good luck and lots of prayers to you!

Well, I just had my appointment, and my VSG is scheduled for Monday, February 21. I am reading all of these other happy/excited posts and wishing so much that I could allow myself to feel happy or excited instead of feeling like I am marching towards my executioner. I am incredibly afraid of having surgery. The concept of it scares me so much. I am so positive something terrible will happen and I will die. There is no solution to it either. Waiting until later will not make it better, and nothing I can do makes me feel better about the chance that I may die during surgery. I know that this is the right decision for my health, but I can't help but follow that up with 'as long as I make it.' Is anyone else having feelings like this? It would be great if we could all encourage each other. At this point I am worried I won't be able to get myself to the hospital to have the surgery.

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I'm on the verge of canceling, so you don't need to tell me about being scared! And how weird is this? My band has been gone for nearly five years, but I'm having pain in my mid-section that reminds me of some of the slipped band feelings I used to have. (Yes, I will check it out if it continues and I decide to proceed). Doubts, fears galore here. Where I am is this: If I'm having doubts or concerns, it's better to wait until I'm 100 percent sure. That said, I'm sure there are plenty of people who weren't 100 percent sure that are completely happy with their decision!

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