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My wife is extremely supportive of my decision, and she is the only one who will ever know. I would love to talk to my kids about it but they are very likely to say something to others about it because that's what kids do. I love my parents and siblings to death and I know they would be supportive, but I still don't want to tell anyone else. My wife disagrees and she thinks its silly that I don't want to tell. She's really close with my parents and I've asked her not to tell them because sometimes she has conversations with them about me when I'm not around. She's been worried about my weight for years so she is happy that I am losing on my pre-op and she is excited about what the results will be post-op. Like someone said before, it is a very personal decision and telling people may have impacts that some of us just don't want to face. But I also agree that you have to tell someone.

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Yep, I did. I told both my aunt, who was VERY supportive, and my boyfriend, who didn't have much to say. He's not a fan of doctors in general...thinks the "herbal" way is always better, but I guess he's going to go along with it. I told him if anyone asks, just tell them I had my gallbladder out, because my surgeon is going to remove that at the same time he does the sleeve. I guess we'll see how it goes. I'm scheduled for Nov. 11th. I'm excited, but scared shitless too!

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It's totally up to you! I still haven't told any of my in laws and I'm not sure if I'm going too. I also some of our friends this past weekend and they kept going on and on about how much weight I've lost and I said thank you :D and didn't say anything about my sleeve. And there are other times where I've told total strangers about it lol...

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