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I told my husband and parents thats it for family. I told my two supervisors because both of them have struggled with their weight and I told two co workers. But I wish I hadn't told them. I will decide as i go along who to tell becuase people still have the wrong perceptions about WLS. I will not tell any more family members though. Because my family would never understand.

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I told my family, in-laws and close friends. I feel guilty when not so close friends go on and on about how wonderful I look and I'm telling them that I'm doing a high Protein diet (which technically I am) and a Migraine food elimination diet (which I currently am) - and three of them desperately want to lose weight....I do NOT want to sound at all like all you have to do is cut out chips, bread...blah, blah, blah.....I mean seriously!!!! I KNOW, I've been there time and time again over a life time. I feel like a fraud!!! I don't know why I don't just tell everyone!!!

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Ive kind of hinted to some at work, and told others... told my mom and dad who supported the idea...they told my brother...who seems to aprove and is overweight...may even like the idea of doing it himself sometime. I told two out of three friends...funny, the last friend is a Dr. who is over weight... I kind of think she might argue a bit with me... but maybe not too... She might even go for it herself when she sees how it goes for me. Im sure I will tell her soon. I am in the public eye a little bit, so taking my time to see how it goes....I tend to think I will tell whoever asks, but we shall see. I have not had surgery yet...three months.

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I told everyone. I even posted it on my Facebook. This was about me. I never wanted anyone to think how did you do it ask me for advise and me not tell them exactly how I did it. I tell anyone who wants to hear I did my 1200 calories, then 800, then had surgery. I told them I had to lose the first 30lbs before they would even do surgery. I don't mind if people talk or not this was never about anyone else. This has always been about me getting my health and body back to a place where I feel healthy and secure.

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I told my parents, brother, a few relatives, and maybe 3 co-workers. People are so negative when it comes to weight loss surgery. They either comment on the complications, people re-gaining weight, or ask why don't I just try to diet and exercise. Most of these people have never had weight problems. People are more sympathetic to alcoholics, smokers, and drug abusers, all of which have some underlying psychologic issue.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

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        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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