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I have finally bitten the bullet and have booked into the Obesity Surgery centre on the Gold Coast.

I have 2 weeks before my first appointments with the nurse and dietician and I'm so nervous and so embarrassed about having to finally admit that I have this "big" problem that I can't fix myself.

Did anyone else feel like this?

Was anyone else so nervous before their surgery that they just felt like canceling their appointments?

Help!:D

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Hi there and welcome:)

this is only natural for you to feel that way. Im sure most people here did.

I wasnt nervous, i was more excited because i was getting this done!!!!

Goodluck...keep us posted:)

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Hi JoJo,

Your feelings are perfectly normal. I remember feeling excited that there was help but embarassed and scared at the same time. The excited feeling got me thru it thank God :D

Don't cancel 1 appointment because this will really throw you back.. press on!!!

Hugs and Good Luck !!!

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JoJo, Don't you dare be embrassed. Look at all the support you have on this board.I am 62 and so wish we had a tool like the band many years ago. I am almost a month out and am doing great. Yes I was a little nervous after I got my surgery date call but then it turned into excitment.

You hang in there and I promise you won't regret it.:D

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Jojo I felt like that about my plastics and cancelled the first appointments I had... Once I actually went to the next appointment I was like - what was I so scared of? My band & plastics are the best things i've ever done for myself. Alcholics get help, smokers get help, why not obese people? We have a food addiction and shouldn't be ashamed about getting help also.

Good luck for your appointment, it won't be nearly as scarey as it seems at first :)

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Welcome to LBT, Jojo. You are among friends here. Friends who have dealt with, or are just in the middle of dealing with, the same mixture of emotions that you are having. The fear of the unknown is very powerful. But the good news is, you've found a place where many have gone before you and many are there with you now. Ask lots of questions and keep sharing your feelings. You will learn so much before you're even banded - and THAT will help lessen those fears.

Congratulations on making the choice to take back control of your life! Keep us posted on the progress of your journey! :clap2:

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It would be a little concerning if you weren't nervous. :)

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hello jojo and welcome yep i think we were all the same, everytime nerves would try and talk me out of it i would try extra hard and turn it around to excitment for the new me that was going to come out of it

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Thanks for all the replies and support. I feel alot better knowing there are lots of people like me. I think my biggest problem is I've always been very independent and am a little annoyed that I haven't been able to fix this weight problem myself.

I just have to learn to swallow my pride and realise it's not such a bad thing to ask for help sometimes.

I'm sure all your words of encouragement will make me stronger.

Thanks all.

:)

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"Before you criticize someone, walk a mile in their shoes. That way when you criticize them, you're a mile away and they have no shoes on."

Thanks for the chuckle, Wheetsin! :)

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Hi i was so nervous while i waited to be took in for my surgery. I laid on the operating table petrified. If i hadn't have had a backless surgical gown and no undies on i would have left. I thought about all the things i would be able to do with my life and my family once i had the procedure done. Luckily they came and got me for surgery soon after. Even though its hard and a challenge and sometimes things don't always go as they should i consider the surgery the most positive thing i have done for myself. GOOD LUCK

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I was nervous too.....I'm really good at taking it off but unsuccessful at keeping it off and have failed at that so many times.....now I'm nervous that it will happen and not only will I put it back on but be out $16,000 and have to suffer the embarassment of yet another failure.

But....I'll do what it takes and try my best to prevent that from happening. I think the nervousness is settling down and the excitement is taking over, I can't wait..........Jun 8th.

Carol

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:hungry: Hi All

I am still new to this site do not manage to go on all that often I was banded in Sydney last year and the weight has dropped of but obviously still a complusive eater cause been going through a really stressfull time lately and eating all the wrong stuff do you all feel the same and what do you do in that case

Thanx

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