Assist/no Snark

[☠carolinagirl☠ 18,722]

let me say that this forum is a godsend to me

there is another forum that chewed my happy (never never land) butt up and spit it out.. why? how come? because i had the nerve to say i was getting banded...

someone referenced snide remarks to the newbies or prebies let me say....far be it from me to judge ANYONE. and if anyone thinks i have or am.....my apologies here and now.

i am one of the big bmi's. yepper...the biguns you all read about. and id kill to have only to lose what some do (the lower bmi's). this does not

give me the right to cast judgement or be a ass to them.

i do however say, if i feel they are not following their dr's instructions (or suggestions) that they should be. you damn right. why go through all of this to just (eat some pie a few days out and say it was soft so what is the big difference)

take care of your body

take care of your body

eat good foods

no food is off limits but sometimes some foods just not need to ate eating those foods in the past made us need WLS

so eat what you want but dont blame the band and say its not working ...i have to hold myself accountable to me and my dr ONLY

sure i can come here and say i eat lettuce only...

are you serious?...i have lap band surgery, apparently i had trouble eating in my history.

i promised myself to be open (100%) and honest in all that i have/encounter with this band/plication new life journey. that includes TMI info at times and the good and the bad.......

this forum has some good/great people

i am honored to know them and encourage them and have them help/support me.

i will always help anyone

i will never say told you so or see what you done.....

i will however be firm in saying you need to follow the rules:

eat right

eat healthy choices

exercise (do what you can with what you have)

make no excuses

follow your dr's orders (follows ups)

if something is not right---call the dr dammit

(hate seeing posts that say should i call dr).....if you are thinking it, then you should..

well, please note i respect and adore any and all who have had this surgery

please do what you need to do to get well

if you keep doing what you always done (and needed surgery because you are fat/obese) then you will remain just that.

and that goes for me too.

[kyrasgrandma 228]

I am pretty sure I know which site you are talking about. I went as far as emailing them and complaining about the treatment on the lap band section of the site. I also told them I was talking to my surgeon about it because the site is recommended in the paperwork we got as being helpful.

I got an email back pretty much telling me where the block and delete buttons were. This is from the admin.

I did bring it up the day of my surgery and my nurse promised to look into it , talk to my surgeon and perhaps drop it from there list of helpful sites.

I tend to stay away from there now as there are better sites available. I love lapband talk. People here are friendly and helpful. Just what a newly banded person needs.

[LouisianaLiLi 231]

Well said CG! You are exactly right.

Honestly, sometimes we fall off the wagon, but don't fall off, stay off, and then complain of "failure". If you fall off...GET UP, and GET BACK ON...move on and get back on track.

I am also a HUGE fan of "call the Dr. if something doesn't feel right"

[♕ajtexas♕ 3,771]

You read my mind, sister. I knew there was a reason I liked you!

[Mayasgram 351]

I agree with everything you have said. Maybe I am a little more wait and see with the call the Dr. I live an hour and half from my Dr. and in 3 years have only had to call 2 times after hours, one time the PA met me in a gas station bathroom halfway to Disney to take out some fill. The last time I was so stuck I was vomiting blood . Those were time I knew I was in trouble .

But I have had twinges and pains and I just let those go as a wait and see. Maybe I am this way having raised 3 boys and a husband who faint at the sight of blood and think a cold is terminal.

This site is a good site I don't think telling it like it is is snarky. I read about people eating like they use too and , wanting food 2 days after surgery and I say..... Really you want us to rubber stamp that. I really want everyone who does the band to lose the weight and I know how to do it and I am not going to sugar coat it . My Dr and PA are straight talkers they told me they would help me get the weight off if I would do what I was told to do. I did.... it worked ....and I am in a place I haven't been since I was in my 40's. I take 0 pills from 7 pills I feel great and I'm kinda cute.

.I could not go to my Drs support group because I had to drive 3 hours round trip to listen to a bunch of whiners talk /mourn all the food they couldn't have. I spent 35 mins of my life listening to someone go on and on over a slice of pizza .They were stuck on the negative and I was just so happy to not be able to need that food in my life anymore. Today I eat anything I can get down and realize it is just food ...

[zinhaa 363]

Yup that other site if its the one i am thinking of( cause i only know 2 this one and the other one) are unsupportive and down right mean!

Wendy

[☠carolinagirl☠ 18,722]

yes wendy and time....that is the one

when i first got banded, i cannot tell you how often i was told just you wait

i met a couple nice gals but jeannie told me to get off it and i have done that and

am much much happier...

[Maddysgram 6,159]

yes wendy and time....that is the one

when i first got banded' date=' i cannot tell you how often i was told just you wait

i met a couple nice gals but jeannie told me to get off it and i have done that and

am much much happier...[/quote']

The Banded B's need to make a field trip!

[☠carolinagirl☠ 18,722]

The Banded B's need to make a field trip!

i think a couple meant well and wanted you to be careful

but a handful were just vile...def made me think i was stupid for getting my wls type

[Maddysgram 6,159]

i think a couple meant well and wanted you to be careful

but a handful were just vile...def made me think i was stupid for getting my wls type

It was like that on Weight Watchers. I made some great friends on the 100 plus board, but if you went on General board, those ppl were brutal. I always warned newbies to stay away from General.

[♕ajtexas♕ 3,771]

The Banded B's need to make a field trip!

I'll get my gun!

[LouisianaLiLi 231]

Woooo Hoooo. Field trip!

[Maddysgram 6,159]

You guys have to tell me where we're going? I got to set my gps

[☠carolinagirl☠ 18,722]

[Maddysgram 6,159]

I think we should take our bikes?