Worried About Being A Failure

[a1990 55]

I'm only two week out but man I'm so worried about not doing right and not having success with the band, I have lost 9 lbs since surgery oct3. I'm so worried I'm going to stretch they new stomach or do something wrong, I just don't feel normal yet is that normal two weeks out. I still have some gas pains and I know I should not be worring about weight loss right now but I am

[Sojourner 2,446]

Feeling the way you are describing is normal...you are still newly banded, and are still in the process of healing. This is a time to focus on healing, and not your scale. Your weight loss will come in the months ahead.

Fear of failure is quite common, not just with weight loss, but also in virtually all areas of one's life. You never know what successes you are capable of achieving if you don't make a decision to go after what you want...

Don't over think this...follow your surgeon's instructions and you will be successful.

Best wishes...

[☠carolinagirl☠ 18,722]

ok, have you ate an entire pizza? are you running through mcdonalds??

if you answered n,,,,,you are doing fine. please note i am just being silly but trying to make you realize that

i am sure you are doing fine. sojo is 100% right in focusing on recovery and not what the scale may or may not say..

the only way you can fail is not to try.....and you did that. you had surgery and you are a success.

[a1990 55]

ok' date=' have you ate an entire pizza? are you running through mcdonalds??

if you answered no,you are doing fine. please note i am just being silly but trying to make you realize that

i am sure you are doing fine. sojo is 100% right in focusing on recovery and not what the scale may or may not say..

the only way you can fail is not to try.....and you did that. you had surgery and you are a success.[/quote']

Thank you are right maybe I'm being to hard on myself

[☠carolinagirl☠ 18,722]

Thank you are right maybe I'm being to hard on myself

damn right you are

cut yourself a break. you just had major freeking surgery.

your body needs to heal but this also is a time to focus on you and take care.

you can do this. i just know it. i believe in you.

now you believe in you.

[a1990 55]

damn right you are

cut yourself a break. you just had major freeking surgery.

your body needs to heal but this also is a time to focus on you and take care.

you can do this. i just know it. i believe in you.

now you believe in you.

Awww thanks carolinagirl you just made my night

[NurseLydsss 59]

I'm only two week out but man I'm so worried about not doing right and not having success with the band, I have lost 9 lbs since surgery oct3. I'm so worried I'm going to stretch they new stomach or do something wrong, I just don't feel normal yet is that normal two weeks out. I still have some gas pains and I know I should not be worring about weight loss right now but I am

You had yours Oct. 3, I had mine on Sept. 28, I went for my 2wks post-op visit today, and guess what...I lost 5lbs since surgery and I was excited, cause you r supposed to lose 1-2lbs a week. So if you lost 9lbs in 2 wks, that's a huge deal....remember it took us yrs to put on the weight, it will not come off over night.Be patient and calm, focus on healing n put in your mind that your goal is to lose 1 lb a week....I tell myself the minimum cause I don't want to get disappointed and can get extremely excited if I lose more. Once you start adding vigorous exercise to your routine, the pounds will just shed like crazy.....Don't worry and good luck!!!