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IT DOES NOT MEAN I EAT EVERY SECOND OF THE DAY!!!

Went downstairs at my job today and was completely embarrassed. I went previously at 7 am and purchased Breakfast. It was then 8:30am. A coworker asked me to walk with them and i also needed to get some Water. The coworker and I were talking and we ended up at the hotbar waiting for his food. The attendant hands him his food and then looks at me and say, very loudly btw," YOU ARE EATING AGAIN?!"

deer caught in headlights look consumed me. I had not asked her for anything. In fact i was picking up my Water to walk away with the coworker. I said no and removed myself from the cafe area period. Luckily im not superficially sensitive but it hurts inside either way.

Anyone had any similar experiences or embarrassing moments when your weight has been " brought to your attention"?

My children, 4 & 5 do it all the time...

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I have been over weight since childhood, so boy have I had it. I was harrished and bulled so much in middle school I because severely depressed. It continued some in high school, but I handled it better. College was a little better. However, when I went back to work in the school system I will see kids and they will make snide comments.

On my wedding day of all days, I heard an older member of our community (who is obese herself) say I can't believe she is getting married before my granddaughter; look at her she is huge. Oh, well it makes since she is marrying a blind man. OMG, I got so mad- one that was a put down to me and it was to my husband. My husband is visually impaired, but far from dumb and stupid. He makes a six figure salary and is great to me. He granddaughter isn't married because no one can stand her attitude.

People are so rude sometimes.

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Yea....it was at least 10 years ago...but I was asked sooooo you must be due anytime now......~crys~ i wasnt preg...

I NEVER ask any one when they are expecting ....unless I am 100% sure

Sorry you had to have a bad experance today....

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Sorry, Hugs

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Those comments to us in our earlier years when we cant process them like now can lead to a lifetime of self esteem issues etc. sad. But we are moving up above that now!!!

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Stupid Itch, I think we all have, few years back I signed up to the toning tables, I would go late in the evenings after all the skinny chickies were done, I was feeling pretty good had my tan on, new hair cut few pounds gone, thought I was on my way to the new me, then in comes momma with her precious son who after staring at me for 30 mins asked me why my butt was so big.....Never went back

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so sorry you had to go through that i feel your pain , some people are just so cruel and dont have filters on their mouth ! :(

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A so called friend said "You would be pretty if you only lost weight". Karma is a b***h becaus she is bigger than I am now.

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Its sad that i am not the onlu one but empowering to see that we all lived to tell the story. Unfortunately some were tormented soo much that they ended their lives...

All of these stories show just how insensitive people are. Honestly it just makes me want to stay on my path to being banded that much more. Not to satisfy their ignorance, but to prove myself right for a change. To prove that yes I can accomplish a goal that wouldnt happen over night.

I applaud every last one of you and those to come! I will be a cheerleader for all whether banded, thinking about banding, or on the way to being a bandster! Keep up the good work and the great self esteem :-)

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And as always, I appreciate you all sharing. I do feel better when Im able to talk about the problem without being judged

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And as always, I appreciate you all sharing. I do feel better when Im able to talk about the problem without being judged

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never judge as as we walk in each others shoes (heels or in my case, flip flops). we have all been there...some maybe not but at some point, our feelings were hurt or our ego bruised because of a comment or a look......

onward and upwards......maddys balloon flying off

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So sorry you were insulted by this unthinking idiot. Some people just don't think before they speak unfortunately. Rise above the stupid comments because thats what they are....stupid!

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I recently went to a d**k's to buy a new IFIT Epic Elliptical machine for workouts after the band when the guy helping me happened to "mention" out loud that it has a "350 lb weight limit".

Hellooooooo, like I didn't already know that. Some people are stupid.

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I really don't mind when a small child says something, they don't know better. But when an adult says something, then you know why the word Ignorant was made.

About 70lbs less ago, my car broke down and I was pushing it off the road (yep, I was pretty strong back then). A car load of young men went by and yelled "hey Buffalo butt". But I knew at that moment I was a better person b/c I knew if someone else was pushing their car, I would have helped.

I wonder where those ignorant guys are today?

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I have been over weight since childhood' date=' so boy have I had it. I was harrished and bulled so much in middle school I because severely depressed. It continued some in high school, but I handled it better. College was a little better. However, when I went back to work in the school system I will see kids and they will make snide comments.

On my wedding day of all days, I heard an older member of our community (who is obese herself) say I can't believe she is getting married before my granddaughter; look at her she is huge. Oh, well it makes since she is marrying a blind man. OMG, I got so mad- one that was a put down to me and it was to my husband. My husband is visually impaired, but far from dumb and stupid. He makes a six figure salary and is great to me. He granddaughter isn't married because no one can stand her attitude.

People are so rude sometimes.[/quote']

Omg I give you credit for keeping ur cool! I would've went off on that betch!

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